wanting to smack a man across the face at a drinks party?

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Last night dh & went to a v. formal drinks party with lots of bankers & lawyers standing around in suits & lots of blah-blah-blah. I was talking with a group of people about work & one old guy mentioned sexual harassment & how you can get fired for putting your hand on a woman's bottom, for example. While he was saying this, he very discretly put his hand on my bottom to demonstrate. I was horrified, furious but just stood there like a stuffed dummy with my mouth open. I don't think anyone else noticed. I quickly made excuses about getting something to eat & left. Still fuming now. Wished I had thrown my drink at him.

Well, if it happens again - go for it!

yes totally unreasonable .. its not the 1950s you know and physical assault is physical assault

but a scathing response and making your point clear and loudly would have been in order

To clarify, I did mean sloshing him with a drink, not belting him!

I would've said loudly and accusingly 'Yes that's just the sort of thing that gets you into deep touble these days!'

Was it a works drinks party?

I would have said, if you do not remove your hand from my bottom at once I am going to rip your arm out and beat you with the soggy end!

Yes I reckon something funny, cutting and belittling would have been a good respons,
but you can never think of things at the time can you?

to throw your drink at him or hit him would reinforce in his mind the 'overreaction' belief he has.

much more effective to make him look foolish with your superior wit and intelligence.

If you can think of anything.

I would have ground my heel into his foot - equally suruptitiously.

Grab his hand, yank it into the air and shout "Whose hand is this? I just found it on my arse!"

lol slug

good one, slug. But it's true, a witty, cutting remark would have been far more appropriate & effective. If only I could have had the necessary nerve at the time. I did mention it to my bf & as this guy apparently comes from an old genevois family, I shall spread the word. My dh's response was, "The old dog! Doesn't surprise me, he's always been a bit of the jack the lad". (my dh was born in 1949 & it shows in more than one way - sigh...)

LOL at "The Old Dog". This is a sweeping generalisation but many men of a certain generation just seem to think that kind of thing is hilarious (dont mind if an attractive young man wants to touch my bottom, but not an old goat).

/kimi makes note of slugs post for use at later date.