To ask if anyone else spends almost every waking moment alone

[svetlanasuzkova]

From the age of 18 I have spent almost every day alone. When I had my Son at 23 I at least had some company but I find it even more lonely than before.

I'm considered pretty and I'm always told I am but I've never found anyone who likes me and who I like back.

I am lucky in that I have a very close friend in my hometown and a close friend who lives 20 miles away. I spend around 5 hours every month with one of them. That is all the interaction I have.

When you're alone everything is boring. Going to the shops, watching tv, walks etc etc. It's all rather boring without someone to chat to. The days are very long and I have found I don't enjoy the time with my Son as I'm with him all the time.

I lived rurally so no chance to make friends in the local area.

I'm going to be working full time in a busy open plan office with people my own age and I'm hoping this will be the making of me. I'm extrovert and crave human company so I'm hoping this will be good for me and at least will mean I'm spending time with other adults. I've been unemployed my entire life.

I've never met anyone like me. Even single parents seem to have siblings, parents or friends they at least see in the week. I do not.

I find I've coped with it by spending far far too much time online, going for walks while listening to music and spending hours listening to music while cleaning. Anything to avoid the silence and lack of stimuation.

Is anyone else like me? AIBU to think this is very rare for someone my age (27) and what coping mechanisms do you have?

Apart from when I'm working I'm generally on my own 24/7. I don't mind it weirdly

Would it be possible to move? Do you drive?
It sounds as if your location is preventing you from having social interaction.

If you lived near a town you could join gym, yoga, evening class community education, volunteer etc.

I made most of my friends at my kids playgroups,and schools,does yr son go to anything

My Son will be starting school in september.

I am planning to move. That would help me so much. I'd be so much happier as it's so isolating here.

It's a bit late now that it's almost summer (and these things tend to stop over the summer) but playgroups are a great way to meet other people, even if these people aren't close enough to be considered 'friends.'
When do you start your job? Hopefully you will make lots of friends then. Schools mums/dads will also become friendly (if you do the school run).

I have yet to make a single friend from playgroups etc.

Work I'm hoping will be different.

I think the problem is that you've not been working. Quite a lot of people spend most of their time outside work alone. They need the downtime and the quiet after being with people constantly at work you see.

I think you'll find it's different once you're working.

Apart from work, I do. I'm a natural introvert, though, and don't really mind it.

Oh op this is not healthy. Please try and get that move organised. Join a swimming club, book club, running club, get your son to join hobbies and befriend a parent or two, go to coffee mornings, volunteer for charity. I know a lot of mumsnetters say they hate people and are intorverts and socialising is a waste of time but they often have partners to share their lives with. Its no way to live honestly and I can feel the loneliness through your posts. Try and even make a pal you just chit chat with at work, build up to going for a coffee at lunch break or eating lunch together in the canteen. Even that bit of idle chat can do the world of good