I am exchanging my council house with someone from another city. We both need to be nearer to work.
Her house is in the perfect location for me. Much smaller than my house and no garden while mine is a large semi detached house with a garden but in a slightly less desirable area. Overall my house is worth around 10k more.
I will be starting my new job soon and was really hoping to exchange as soon as possible.
My house really is lovely so I was surprised when she was impressed and she brought her three children who loved the garden. She explained that she loved the house but in order to take it she would need to travel a 40 minute journey to work and she had hoped to find something a little nearer. I've had interest from people in her preferred location so she said she would like to try for a three way swap. However she made it clear that she absolutely prefers my house to hers as hers is 2 hours away from her new job so if she wasn't able to get a swap she would absolutely take the house as it's lovely. She asked me when I was looking to move and I said asap and she said yes that's fine. I'd like to be moved by at least December. Secretly I though, december is ages away!
She left saying she may just take my house as it's lovely and she can commute or find a job nearer. She text me after leaving saying thank you for showing me around and I said no problem and that was two days and I've not heard anything since.
She's lovely. I am sure she would tell me if she'd changed her mind and I'd be surprised if she did as it's unlikely she would find anything better but I don't have a clue what's happening now. I don't know if she's still interested, waiting to see if a three way swap is going on. I don't want to be pushy but I'm starting my job in 4 weeks time and while I accept I won't be moved by then I don't want to be in limbo.
Should I give a deadline for her to decide to take my house? Would that be unfair and pushy?