To not let mil babysit as she has a rash

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Mil has said that she has a horrid rash on her neck since she got back from her holiday. She said that it's incredibly irritating and blistering and she "might" go to see the GP about it.

She's asked to have dd tomorrow (2yo) to play and look after and I'm also 40+2. Would it be bad form for me to say until she gets confirmation it's not some horrendous catchable illness I don't want her to have dd tomorrow?

She's been to work with it and she said (as far as she is aware) nobody else has developed it, she also had it last week but I didn't see her (dh dropped off dd). I'm probably being precious but I don't fancy getting something itchy and rashy before giving birth and bringing a newborn home.

She sounds like a selfish prat tbh.

It's certainly made me reassess a few things this week, I can assure you.

But if it has been assessed and sorted then what is the issue now? I get she was reluctant at first but with a new baby on the way you will need the help you can get so why be so combative about it?

It was more the issue that I had to point out that it was an issue. She just kept saying if it was shingles that I wouldn't catch it because Ive had chicken pox.

Also in terms of support etc it's very sporadic and she often lets us down at the last minute. We've also never asked for her to help out, she offers and then cancels last minute (usually when I've planned something).

It's basically just one thing in a long list of issues that have been building up sadly.

It's sad though as we used to have a good relationship but she has broken our trust numerous times lately and after this I don't really feel very confident anymore.

I'm with you, glitter, you don't want to muck about when you could deliver at any minute. If your DD is ill when the baby comes it will be a nightmare, and completely avoidable.

When I gave birth my sister wouldnt visit at all because she had a rotten cold and didn't want to pass it on.

I don't get the mentality that children should be available to entertain adults!

Thanks @Basket

Yeah I didn't see my niece for a week when she was born because I was full of cold. Not fair on the baby, not fair on the parents etc.

I think someone people think they are worth risking serious illness for
Fil had mystery virus, blood, urine samples taken, he was knocked out, lost loads of weight. No diagnosis, on the mend popped in with dd and came back from loo to find him feeding her off his spoon but they are most germ phobia people ever. Mil also leans in on dd then and announces she has sore throat etc

Omg!!!

I'm not a priss, my daughter plays and gets grubby. We practice washing our hands but will pick food up off the ground and let her shove her face in the dog's etc.

But that's just too much!

Same here glitter I am not germ adverse but they go mental over teeniest germ things then literally spoon thier own germ ridden saliva onto my dd mouth