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GaynorGoodwin · 02/07/2017 15:58

My DD is currently at college but went through secondary with a small group of three others kids who are now all in sixth form. I'm perfectly happy that my DD is doing this route but one of the other mums (.who lives just down the road) seems to bring up how their son 'Harry' will be going to university, has visited three uni's so far, blah blah and quite honestly I'm getting sick of it. He's a clever lad and whilst I'm sure they're very proud I'm getting tired of it. We've both got dogs and seem to find ourselves at the same location (even though I've tried to avoid) ...advice please I'm running short of patience.....

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SerfTerf · 02/07/2017 16:00

Go on about student debt ad nauseum?


StickThatInYourPipe · 02/07/2017 16:06

She's probably just using it as a way to make conversation. What do you say about your dd? Issue saying it in a way to try to upset you or just genera chit chat?


Lj8893 · 02/07/2017 16:07

I'm not sure what your dd being at college has to do with it?


Allthebestnamesareused · 02/07/2017 16:24

Its a fairly normal topic for people who have kids at 6th Form College to have. It is the time of year for open days at uni.

I think she is just making conversation.

What plans does DD have after 6th Form. Bore her back with youe details of DD's plans.

Personally I like to hear what other kids my sons' ages are up to.


corythatwas · 02/07/2017 16:25

Presumably it's a vocational college, Lj.

I wouldn't worry about it. I have 2 children, neither of whom is going to go to university, and I really do think it's mainly small-talk. The main thing is to be proud of the child you have.


GaynorGoodwin · 02/07/2017 16:49

@corythatwas; yes it's vocational and I'm very proud of DD. I guess it's that the way she talks about him and if I say anything about DD she seems to dismiss it and goes on about her DS.

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GaynorGoodwin · 02/07/2017 16:52

@stick; She initially asks about DD but then very quickly starts a new conversation about her DS. We've even been talking about one thing and then I've been about to go....when she quickly says yet something else about him...unrelated to what we were talking about.

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Only1scoop · 02/07/2017 16:55

What is your AIBU?


whyayepetal · 02/07/2017 17:11

Sounds like a bit of mum-upmanship to me OP. Just smile and nod! Hope your DD is enjoying her course. (Mine is doing induction days for various sixth forms atm, and trying to find the best fit for her)


corythatwas · 02/07/2017 17:29

ah, mum-upmanship, then. agree- it's just smile and nod from now on.


Mummmy2017 · 02/07/2017 17:31

It could be that no one else in the family ever got to Uni and the mom is just so excited. that it is all she can think about, maybe you could ask her some questions about what she has seen, I think she really does want to be able to enjoy the build up, if they have visited 3 already.

Sometimes being a friend means letting them talk them selves out. after all you just need to nod and say yes a few times.


GaynorGoodwin · 02/07/2017 18:34

@corythatwas; my hubby says the same and tells me to just nod, lol. Thanks

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