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To ask if you would pay for your sixth former to start guitar lessons?

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haillie · 01/07/2017 23:38

DD is going into Year 13 in September and would like to learn the guitar. I'm just wondering if this is something you would still pay for? Thanks

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Notknownatthisaddress · 01/07/2017 23:39

Yeah. Why wouldn't you? I assume you are still getting child benefit/child tax credits?

gleam · 01/07/2017 23:43

Er, yes.

missymayhemsmum · 01/07/2017 23:46

Yup, if i could afford to. Though if the young person was earning or had ema then contributing to the cost would make them practice harder.

stonecircle · 01/07/2017 23:47

Why wouldn't you? I paid for DS's piano lessons in the sixth form.

NoLoveofMine · 01/07/2017 23:48

Definitely do. Never too late to learn!

Giraffey1 · 01/07/2017 23:51

Err yes, why not? Why are you even asking?

haillie · 01/07/2017 23:53

She has a job and it's a new hobby so just wondered :)

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NoLoveofMine · 01/07/2017 23:55

I'm the same year as her - she'll love it.

SequinsOnEverything · 01/07/2017 23:58

At that age if I had wanted to take up a new activity I would have paid for it myself, so I don't think it's unreasonable of op to ask.

Notknownatthisaddress · 02/07/2017 00:00

I would still say yes as you are still (presumably) getting child benefits and tax credits for her (which are there to help with costs for your child.)

When she hits 18 and becomes an adult/maybe starts uni, then no.

I knew a woman (aged 20,) who went to uni whose mother still paid £55 a month for her mobile phone! Fuck that! Grin

emmyrose2000 · 02/07/2017 00:08

Yes. Why wouldn't you? Confused

Rach5l · 02/07/2017 00:16

Yes, I'll pay for my DC until they have a wage themselves

YouTheCat · 02/07/2017 00:18

No way. Buy them a book and a guitar. If they can't manage to work it out from there then what is the point in paying for lessons?

And I say this as someone whose parents couldn't afford piano lessons so I taught myself from a book when I was 12. Also, taught myself to play the guitar and currently working on the violin.

Agoddessonamountaintop · 02/07/2017 00:20

Whoever not? My two eldest have both said they wish they hadn't stopped music lessons when they did (10 and 13 or so). I reckon she's more likely to put in the practice time than a primary schooler doing it at a parent's suggestion.

EyeHalveASpellingChequer · 02/07/2017 06:04

Buy them a book and a guitar. If they can't manage to work it out from there then what is the point in paying for lessons?

Surely the whole point of lessons is that they LEARN to play?

londonrach · 02/07/2017 06:08

Yes. Agree with eyehalve lessons there to teach you. just having the book and guitar you could struggle to learn.

thinkiamgoingcrazy · 02/07/2017 06:41

Yes definitely. Am trying to encourage my Year 10 ds to have lessons again. He used to when younger, and is now playing the guitar again. The tunes coming from his bedroom are lovely, and I think that with lessons he could be really good.

But he's having none of it Grin.

Sgtmajormummy · 02/07/2017 06:49

If you can afford it, then yes!
Paying for lessons at this age is probably going to be more cost effective than for a younger child because of her motivation and attention span.

BertrandRussell · 02/07/2017 06:52

If you can afford it yes.

Pengggwn · 02/07/2017 06:56

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petitesassygirl · 02/07/2017 07:20

If you have the money why on earth wouldn't you???!

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RainbowsAndUnicorn · 02/07/2017 07:39

I would, whilst they are in full time education then hobbies, school related costs etc will always be paid by us.

PossumInAPearTree · 02/07/2017 07:45

Yes i would.

Coddiwomple · 02/07/2017 08:07

I would, I am more than happy to pay for every hobby and actitivies as long as school results are good, and I can't see any reason to stop when they are at uni.

As long as they are doing something, unlike some of the posters I can't see anything wrong in helping out or treating your children even when they are adult. I wouldn't give an allowance to an adult!, but what's wrong with buying them a car, or gifting them a year of hairdresser appointment or pay for their hobby as a gift?
The harder your children work, the more they deserve support I think

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