To think is hugely disrespectful to the LGBT community to turn up to a gay pride parade and do this?

[Chamonix1]

Won't say who but someone we know and her husband have gone to a gay pride parade today with the husband dressed as a woman.
Obviously if you're there to support people that's really great, however this couple do not support the LGBT community and often make jokes about them once pointing out 3 men talking in a park and saying "look Cham I bet they're gay, do you think they have threesomes?! Haha!" And making regular comments when they see any one who is clearly from the LGBT community about how it's not natural and how they need help or how they are "attention seeking".
Turning up is one thing, but turning up and taking photos of the people there and posting on Facebook/sending to friends about how funny it all is and how the husband is "dressed as a gay" just makes me so angry.
I'm wondering if this is just me that would see this as disrespectful? Unless you believe in equality for the LGBT community surely doing what they are doing is just mockery.
Wondering what to say when I see said couple and they start showing me the photos on their phones and laughing about it all and how much fun it was for all the wrong reasons.

I am not sure dressing as a woman would make the man gay, but he may like the opportunity to cross dress.

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The only reasonable explanation is that one of them is closeted and they are trying to explain why they are going to Pride without outing themselves.

If they are genuinely both straight and going to Pride in drag solely in order to cause trouble, they must both be mentally subnormal. It is the kind of thing I would imagine 8yr old boys might find funny, but how many 50yr olds, even the most homophobic ones, care that much about other people being gay?

Is the husband secretly hoping to get beaten up by a big manly bear? It's so much effort, for practically zero reward.

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Of course you don't have to be a transvestite to join in on a gay pride march dressed as a man, so long as you are there to support the LGBT community rather than express your homophobic views every other day of the year and turn up on that day to mock them.

Shashkin
I agree, it's very odd behaviour and ridiculously immature.

Yeah the guys massively closeted.
The fact he had a massively opressive background screams to me that he had a lavender marriage to keep his family happy. Hopefully he finds peace with himself and can stop all the sham i hate gays stuff

That's an extraordinary amount of effort for a mickey take, especially from an adult.

If they are genuinely both straight and going to Pride in drag solely in order to cause trouble, they must both be mentally subnormal.

I agree. There will be many other men in womanface, he won't stick out at all.
So if the intent is parody, that intent is guaranteed to be lost on the audience. Utterly pointless. The only people who will even know the husband isn't "really" a transvestite (though perhaps he is!) are those who read their facebook account.

But the fact that he thinks he's "dressed as a gay" while in fact he's dressed as transvestite illustrates that the "gay men are really women" attitude that is so fashionable with the transactivists is really rather homophobic.

Another one seeing his scorn as cover for his interest. He's obviously interested in at the very least, drag...or cross dressing...and sees this as an easy way to experiement.

Testing the waters to see what response they would get if he was to share the "real him"

Possibly.

I'd most probably reply with "Oh, really? I don't see any difference. Though [colour of the dress] doesn't suit him", or something the like.

If at all. Probably best to ignore them entirely

"The lady doth protest too much, methinks".

I'd be tempted to comment 'not really gay or trans, but will help out if they're busy', but probably just best to ignore.

Maybe it's the wife who is actually gay, and the husband is dressing up as a lesbian!

Either way, it's fucking weird.

Speaking as a lesbian who has been to many gay prides- this couple are not straight. They protest too much and are too invested. Really straight homophobes wouldn't want to be so much part and parcel of a gay event- everyone there will assume they are a queer couple. They are.

He sounds gay in a sort of self hating way. His wife is either in denial, controlling, or being gaslighted by him or something.

It's all a bit unnecessary in this country nowadays, (not that there isn't homophobia or conservative views here, but they're at PRIDE! not at their neighbourhood NIMBY association AGM, they don't have to pretend…)

I'd be tempted to say something like "I think it's great that you feel able to be open about crossdressing after all these years. It must be so much easier now that you're out", and see what they say.

If they maintain that it was all some big pisstake, then I'd let them have it with both barrels.

Sounds like an awful lot of effort just for the purposes of piss taking. Have you heard anything on FB yet etc OP?

Maybe they will have a miraculous road to Damascus moment and realise the error of their ways when they end up having a great time?

I'd suspect he's in the closet. My college friend was exactly like this, so openly and loudly saying he was disgusted with the LGBT club, the next year people saw him kissing another guy on his flat balcony and he became the LGBT club president!