antiquesilver that's really good advice. i need to be much better informed.
I know a lot of the discussion is theoretical rather than personal to my post. But for the bits relevant to me...
Without the help of the welfare system I couldn't have left my marriage. My ex pays above the CM rates. He does not earn enough to maintain 2 households. He has been a higher rate taxpayer for a long time. I earned above the £30k figure quoted below before DC. So as a household we have paid a lot into the system. Right now I need a bit of help back from that system.
I wonder how far the tax ex pays covers the help I get. Regardless....
I fully support the welfare system in helping those who need help. I consider myself very lucky to have earned well in the past. I'm not more deserving.
I did not work any harder than friends I know who have relied on tax credits for years. I just had better opportunities.
I plan to work full time in the next couple of years. I have a plan in place. Realistically I am still going to be dependent on welfare help.
Basically our housing costs are high. Ex tied to location by job. I wouldn't take DC far from him. If I sold up I would pay much more in rent for equivalent housing. I could top up my income with my share of equity. But it would soon be gone and then I'd need, and be entitled to, housing support. Over the timespan until my DC are 18 i think I would cost the state more. I'd also have no equity in the future that could fund care in my old age.
So realistically i don't see how I can avoid dependency on state help until DC are adults.
No one plans the breakdown of a marriage. And despite living fairly frugally on income support right now I am one of the lucky ones. I can pay my bills.
Not many want to be in the position where a full time wage is not enough to live on.
Oops. that is long and possibly invites debate I didn't really intend.
Off to read the article linked DJ.