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To email HT in the summer holidays.

11 replies

FizzyCherry · 30/06/2017 21:42

So, DD broke up today for the summer holidays. She's 8, so Yr 3, going into Yr4.
Last week, they had "Transition Day", where she found out that all of her closest friends, bar one, would be in a different class to her next year.
Two girls who were previously split up, and who were suspected of bullying in Yr 2 are now back together in DDs new class.
At the time she said she was happy with the new arrangement, she likes the teacher and was pleased that one friend would be with her. She mentioned the two girls above, and I asked how she felt about that. She said it was fine, they are horrible to some children but not me.
But tonight, I have had tears and proper anguish because really, she's thoroughly miserable that her friends have all been moved, and, it turns out, the two girls are nasty to her too, but she just thought they were like that to everyone and it was "part of their personality ".
At the end of school assembly this morning, a couple of other parents have mentioned that they are sad that DD isn't in their class because they won't see her as much.
(For context, the school is an old building, Yr 3 classes are next door to each other, but Yr 4 are not, plus they are not grouped the same way). With clubs etc, they are less likely to see each other at lunchtime for instance, and she's now seriously worried she will end up isolated to an extent from her friends and a target for the bullies.
I admit I was slightly annoyed because had she said something earlier, I could have perhaps asked to speak to the Head to see if anything can be done, but now we're facing 9 weeks of worry.
But apparently she didn't say anything because a) one of the bullies has a parent working in the school and b) two of her friends said they were going to ask if they could move to her class (don't think it works like that, bless them).
Would IBU to email my concerns to the Head teacher, bearing in mind she's on holiday, on the proviso that I don't for a second expect anything to be done immediately, but that I can't just ignore what she's saying until September and hope it goes away.
Or shall I do just that - knowing my DD, it won't just go away, she will keep worrying about it all.

OP posts:
rabbitcakes · 30/06/2017 21:45

Usually I'd say stay well out of it, she'll adapt.

But.

It's important that they feel safe and nurtured in the early years ans they are quite small.

An email won't harm. I'd do it for mine.

JoWithABow · 30/06/2017 21:54

I'd tell your DD that you'll see how it goes and just monitor the situation in the first few weeks back, see how things settle in. I just can't see they'd do anything with regards to swapping her into another class as nothing as such has happened (yet)

Helloitsme88 · 30/06/2017 22:01

Headteacher on holiday already? You not in UK op?
I think you should email. I know that as a teacher I try and make myself avaible and I go into school over the summer. I used to work for a head (not a teacher) who was in every day over the summer. Just express your concerns and see what he/she says. Can't do any harm

Broccolirevolution · 30/06/2017 22:02

In the school where I work, there is a chance that they might move children before term starts but they try not to once the term begins. Email the head.

seven201 · 30/06/2017 22:03

I'd email as if they can move her they'd want to get the ball rolling on that. Might not be space though.

maisyanddaisy · 30/06/2017 22:04

Scottish holidays have started. Scotland is in the UK.

Helloitsme88 · 30/06/2017 22:05

Yes I realised my error after I posted. I meant England not U.K.

hippoherostandinghere · 30/06/2017 22:06

Northern Ireland holidays have also started. We are also in the U.K.

HaudYerWheeshtBawbag · 30/06/2017 22:11

Scotland is in the UK, so fed up with comments like this.

No harm in asking OP.

SomewhatNewToThis · 30/06/2017 22:11

Oh definitely email, if bullying is involved I wouldn't give it a second thought. If she were older, I'd say let her try and deal with it but she is very young and she needs to feel secure. I hope you get it sorted,

MycatsaPirate · 30/06/2017 22:26

I'd email and ask that the teacher keeps an eye on things and see how things go for the first few weeks.

My DD is going into year 7 and pretty much all of her friends are going to Grammar school in September and she is really upset that she won't have any friends in school. I have tried to encourage her making new friends and I'm hoping that with the classes being mixed up again she will make friends with some kids that she has previously not had to spend any time with and therefore not got to know.

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