To think some people create drama for the sake of it

[RibenaMonsoon]

Partly wanting to know if IABU and partly wanting to vent. Just come back from LIDL. I walked as I wanted some fresh air.

I had 8 month old DS with me in his pram. We're walking down a pretty narrow pavement. One side of the pavement is a wall, on the other side is a pretty busy road.

I notice a lady walking towards us with her little girl walking beside her, she looked about 4-5.

I move the pram up against the wall so that the lady and her daughter can walk past me. Not enough room for both of them at once but plenty of room for them to go single file.

Instead of doing this, the lady makes a massive deal out of it, huffs, rolls her eyes, gives me an evil glare and walks her little girl out into the road to get round us.

WTF?

What else could i have done there? Why walk your DC into a busy road just to prove a point to someone? I just don't get people sometimes...

On the plus side, LIDL had some amazing strawberries on sale today. Massive, sweet and juicy. It was worth it

She might just have been having a bad day, very rarely I find myself reacting inappropriately annoyed about something trivial. I suspect most of us do it at some point, and it's not about the triviality, it's about what else is going on with that person.

For example, if she had just found out her parent was seriously Ill, she'd failed her accountancy exam and had a major falling out with her partner as they were supposed to be taking the kid to school, would you have judged the same...

I do agree that you never know what other people are going through. A woman did a similar thing to me the other week but she had a newborn baby in a pram so although I was tempted to turn round and ask her what her fucking problem was, I held it in and assumed she hadn't had any sleep. Had she not had the baby with her it may have been a different story

I'm very placid really so I wouldn't have done the same but yes that makes sense.
I understand why a little thing might make someone snap when their day has been ghastly anyway.

I guess what surprised me the most is her walking her daughter in the road. There was no need for it. She still could have huffed at me and kept her daughter on the pavement out of harms way. Maybe she just didn't think.

You were supposed to disappear, didn't you know? Seriously though, sometimes my very existence seems to piss people off. Wherever you are, someone wants to be there and they're more important than you.

Just put it down to other people's problems, enjoy the strawbs.

i know its hard, but its really their problem not yours.
you were out of the way and did your best , she was obviously having a bad day and taking it out on you! i do agree that some people are just not patient - or just entitled and like a drama.

For a while after my mum died, I was a total space cadet.

I remember being in the supermarket one day with my five month old in her pram, and I must've been dawdling in a daze as I walked through an open door.

Once through, I heard someone shout 'THANK YOU' at me really loudly, obviously pissed off that they'd been holding the door for me and I hadn't thanked them.

TBH, I hadn't seen them as was busy puzzling over how to function whilst grieving my mum and looking after my little girl.

She was acting ridiculous, no matter what had been going on in her day.

Ignore it.

Of course some people are just drama queeens. You see them on mumsnet all the time, getting their arse in their hands for no good reason.

Tootsie, there's a difference to being completely unaware and off in your own world and being obviously, deliberately rude and ridiculous for no reason.

Very sorry for your loss.

toot, thats sad, the door thing is hard sometimes, i have opened doors for people and tried to do the right thing, but sometimes things just happen and i have shut it on people ( by accident) and get the glares.
we cant all be fully functioning all day every day. life is tough.
I am getting slower and i can feel the looks when i am trying to get the right change or the right card to pay for the shopping or something.
people expect too much sometimes i think!

Yeah, you don't know what's going on with them - and who cares? No matter what your problems are, how are they a pass to be pissy with total strangers who also may have problems? If we're expected to accept poor behaviour from people on the grounds they may be suffering untold miseries shouldn't they also be expected to behave like civil human beings on the off-chance the other person may also be suffering untold miseries. It's a two way street. Is the woman who huffed and evil-eyed at OP agonizing right now about whether OP had a sleepless night with a baby? No, she probably isn't, she still resenting OP for forcing her (in her mind) and her dd to walk onto the road instead of making adequate room for them to pass in single file and avoiding endangering her own child.

She shouldnt have put the child in the road , she should have gone in the road and the child on the pavement, if she didnt want to go single file.
or stood back and let the op go past with the pram, then move on.
i would have done that myself.
mind you, funny up thread makes a good point as i always feel in someones way , be it on the pavement, on the road or in a shop - i could be browsing an aisle and all of a sudden about 5 people want the one thing i am looking at and try to edge round me. people on the road try to edge me out of it by going right up to my boot. the reason i gave up on going out to busy pubs years ago!

Tootsiepops that's so sad! I'm sorry for your loss! Being polite to someone and the being rude because they didn't get a thank you really just takes away from their initial act of politeness anyway.

Perhaps I could offer huffy puffy lady some Strawbs. Strawberries for everyone having a bad day.