To treat myself?

[LittleFryingPan]

I've had a pretty shit week. Had a miscarriage last Thursday which some of you lovely ladies helped me through (thank you ) which ended up in a 2 night stay in hospital with a suspected seconded eptopic pregnancy. Was discharged yesterday morning with strict instructions to take it easy and not rush back to work.

It's my birthday tomorrow and I thought it would be nice to treat myself to a haircut and massage but WIBU to use time off 'sick' to treat myself like this?

Wonderful DH has left me his personal bank card to use so it really would just be a treat to try cheer myself up a bit.

YANBU, anything that helps you feel better and more 'yourself' is a good thing. Time off "sick" is time given to get better.

I am so sorry for your loss.

Of course. I'm so sorry for what you've been through x

Of course. Just because you're not well enough to be at work doesn't mean you have to lock yourself in your house.

Oh lovey book your things you have had such a terrible time no more thought of being off sick nobody expects you to sit in the house

Thank you guys. I was just doubting myself. My work are normally quite funny with people being off sick but even they told me they'd send my home if I dared turn up before Monday.

Never really had time off before.

YANBU. I was signed off for 2 weeks by doc following my miscarriage and even then my first week back at work I didn't go full time.

No not unreasonable at all - go ahead and DO NOT dare feel any guilt.

Of course YANBU!

I'm so sorry for your loss, I know how hideous it can be. Please do anything that will make you feel cherished.

Book that appointment and don't think twice. Everyone deserves to feel good on their birthday, and nobody more so than you. Enjoy.

YANBU and anyone who judged you for this would be a grade A cow or a horrid bloke. Do whatever you can that you think will help you

Going to ring and book in at nine when they open. Only a little bit of guilt.

No guilt at all please.
It's an awful thing to go through and you must do whatever it is that you think might help, even just a little. Taking care of yourself is top priority.

Glad you're booking it, don't feel guilty at all.

If it helps you to justify it to yourself (and you don't need to justify it!) anything you do to help yourself heal will benefit your work when you do return.

It is good that you are taking care of yourself. No need for guilt at all.