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To not have a bouquet at my wedding?

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SoontobeMrsT · 29/06/2017 07:49

I'm getting married in 4 weeks in a registry office, we booked it 2 weeks ago and have about 30 guests coming. "Proper" wedding, just scaled down. I'm wearing a beautiful dress that isn't an actual wedding dress.

Anyway, I'm having my 2 young children, 4yo and 2yo, walk me down the aisle. I was thinking of having oldest-youngest-me formation all holding hands so I would have a hand free for my bouquet.

However I've ordered an artificial bouquet from eBay and the seller has said it's not available Hmm I haven't been able to find another one i like.

Ideally I would like to walk down the aisle with me In the middle holding each child's hand for a few reasons - to help them walk down easier, I want to hold each of them and for the sake of being "even" aesthetically. But this means no bouquet as no spare hands!

Would this be odd?? I'm really not bothered about a bouquet. The only time i would "need" it would be for photos really. The wedding is pretty informal overall. No bridesmaids or top table etc.

Would anyone actually even notice??

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Anatidae · 29/06/2017 07:51

Of course not. Your wedding, do it your way.


Theworldisfullofidiots · 29/06/2017 07:51

I wouldn't have a bouquet. It sounds like a lovely wedding btw


SheSaidHeSaid · 29/06/2017 07:53

Nope, not odd at all.


Laineymc7 · 29/06/2017 07:53

You don't need one that sounds lovely. You could have little wrist corsages if you wanted to add some flowers.


blueskyinmarch · 29/06/2017 07:53

Of course you don’t need a bouquet. Nothing could be more beautiful than holding your children rather than some artificial flowers as you walk down the aisle.


Whatsername17 · 29/06/2017 07:54

Not at all. I made my bouquet on the morning of my wedding from two bunches of flowers I bought from tesco. If you want them for the photos, put a small bouquet on the registrars table, walk down the aisle with your babies and the pick up the flowers on your way back down the aisle with your new husband. Have a lovely wedding!


Doobigetta · 29/06/2017 07:58

It's your wedding, who cares what anyone else thinks you should do? Holding your children's hands is a lovely idea. One of the nicest weddings I've seen was where the bride's toddler daughter was her bridesmaid. She was so happy and excited, it was lovely.


imsorryiasked · 29/06/2017 08:00

Of course you don't need a bouquet, but if you'd quite like some flowers why not have a small posy for each of the dc which you could then put together to make a larger bunch if you wanted.


fluffydogs · 29/06/2017 08:02

I didn't and I had a " big" wedding, I think they are a bit dated in my opinion


MsSusanStoHelit · 29/06/2017 08:05

Nah, do what you like - your idea sounds lovely. I had a bouquet and it was beautiful but I only had DH's hand to hold when we walked in. If you aren't bothered don't worry about it, it's your wedding.

The registry office usually has a nice display anyway so it's not as if you'll be totally flowerless.


cakecakecheese · 29/06/2017 08:10

Aww that sounds lovely, yeah sack off the bouquet if you don't want one. I know someone who didn't want a bouquet to hold so had a wrist corsage type thing that looked lovely if you did want some sort of flowery thing in there.


SoontobeMrsT · 29/06/2017 08:11

I'll have flowers in my hair and the groom, best man and my children will have button holes. There'll be flowers on the cake and centrepieces so not exactly flower free! Smile

@Doobigetta it's amazing how many people suddenly have opinions on someone else's wedding!! There has already been some "issues" because we're not doing "what's right" Hmm I realised very quickly to only tell people things on a need to know basis!

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liquidrevolution · 29/06/2017 08:14

Bouquet isnt essential. Grace Kelly had a bible. Whats has a good idea if you want flowers.

Or you could go for corsage - either wrist or shoulder. But honestly I would bother.


Anatidae · 29/06/2017 08:14

Ignore all the rubbish. What's important is the marriage - do whatever you feel is what you want to on the day and enjoy it. We didn't have a very conventional wedding but it was nice. It's not set in stone what you 'should' do. It sounds lovely walking with your kids up the aisle.


peukpokicuzo · 29/06/2017 08:16

I didn't have a bouquet. I had a silk-flowers hair decoration and corsage that matched the decorative helium balloons in the church (dh is extremely hayfevery and having flowers in the church would have been a bad idea)


allegretto · 29/06/2017 08:21

I love the idea of a wrist corsage. They are so elegant and you hardly ever get a chance to wear them - you can't exactly where them to go to Tesco's. But you don't need flowers so do what you prefer!


SoontobeMrsT · 29/06/2017 08:24

I'm considering a wrist corsage now! Good idea.

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Namechangearoo · 29/06/2017 08:30

I held my bouquet as I walked down the aisle, then handed it to one of my bridesmaids to hold on to during the ceremony. I then promptly forgot all about it and didn't take it back from her - she eventually just put it down with hers on her chair! Most of our photos I were casually posed with DH in the forest behind our venue and holding an arrangement would have actually looked a bit too formal. It was a very expensive thing to buy to hold for approximately 30 seconds! Hah. I've never really thought about it before your post though!

I bet you look lovely with flowers in your hair and the mens' button holes will look great too. I don't think anyone will even notice!


loaferloveforyou · 29/06/2017 08:35

It's completely up to you.

I had one and I'm glad I did - I wouldn't have known where to put my hands during the staged photos.


MimiSunshine · 29/06/2017 08:46

I think wrist corsage is the way to go and your little girls could have flower crowns, in fact you could too if it suits your style. They don't have to be huge, they could be quite simple


specialsubject · 29/06/2017 08:57

Go hands free. Why fiddle around with a bunch of dead or fake flowers? Serious make work.


Funnyface1 · 29/06/2017 09:07

It's your wedding, do it your way, I think it's sweet. I didn't wear a veil at my wedding, had a fabulous tiara. It wasn't the done thing but I wanted it my way.

However, flowers are nice for all the pictures you'll be taking afterwards, so it might be nice to have a little something simple made at a local florist for that? Just a thought.


SoontobeMrsT · 29/06/2017 10:16

Thanks for all the suggestions! Will have a think and see.

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BiddyPop · 29/06/2017 10:24

A corsage on your dress or some flowers in your hair or a wrist corsage could be lovely if you really wanted some flowers. But I don't think it matters a hoot if you don't carry an actual bouquet, if you don't want to and can't find something you love but have other uses for your hands (i.e. holding DCs).



Trollspoopglitter · 29/06/2017 10:33

What about paper flowers? I don't know if you'd have time to custom order them from etsy, but a quick google showed these lovely giant single stems, which each of your child could hold in the other hand, while you all walk down the aisle... And your husband could be holding the third? Then you can keep them as a wonderful memento.

I bought these lovely juice jugs for our wedding flowers and we still used two of them daily - decade later, I can still picture the flowers from the wedding (but I can't recall what my bouquet looked like or what colour it was)

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