To tell people I'm pregnant?

[sureitsgrand]

I have a history of miscarriages, and even when I have kept quiet about being pregnant in the past my in laws have guessed (if I'm quieter than usual getting early nights, not drinking etc) and told all their extended family anyway. They then on one occasion forgot to tell some people I'd lost the baby which led to a few awkward conversations when we hadn't seen people for a while, asking had we had the baby etc.
So this time, as we saw a heartbeat at 7 weeks and I hate the not telling part, so we told close family and friends then and I felt great being open instead of people guessing. I'm 10 weeks now and all is going well so far.
However, DH aunt (very big figure in the family) has been now telling people how shocked she is at us for telling people so early.
Am I meant to hide in shame in case I have another miscarriage? I just thought it best to be open this time, now feeling stupid.
I don't want to rant to DH as his family have a history of not being suppportive of us, so it upsets him. But I'm fuming. Hoping it's hormones and I will calm down by tomorrow and be back to my not caring what people think attitude which I was rather enjoying till this!

Glad you're feeling better sure, enjoy your pregnancy. You give the rest of us serial miscarriers hope! Do you mind me asking if you've done anything differently this time?

A strong mental image of kicking anyone awkward in the shins will keep you sane. Hopefully there won't be anymore stupid arse comments. It's YOUR news, you deserve to enjoy sharing it. Anyone not on board with it can sod off.

Do you mean in terms of ttc?
I was using pre seed as a lubricant and taking vitamins. I'm not sure if that helped. Also we went on holiday so I was quite relaxed. But I was drinking more wine than usual so thought I wasn't being healthy.
But the funny thing was, we didn't do it as much my fertile week, as we weren't getting on great to be honest. So I said I wanted to take a break from ttc to sort our relationship out. But I must have conceived in the days befor or after.
When I've spent the last year or more focusing on my suspected ovulation dates.
The gynae said to me alot of women get their ovulation days wrong, even with kits, temping etc.
So, my thing was I wasn't really trying for the first month in ages. But I couldn't have done that any other month as it was all I thought about was ttc, my mind just wouldn't let up.
So trick yourself into thinking you don't want to get pregnant lol?
It's so hard isn't it. I wish you all the best Anne and hope it happens really soon for you.