I go on a night out or a weekend away a few times a year with a big group of friends that I know from college days.
For the past few years one friend has been bringing along a friend of hers, who didn't seem to like me from the off and has always made digs and nasty comments about me, taken the piss out of me and generally been a cow. However for the sake of the friendship group I've just let it go, ignored her comments, tried to stay as far away from her at the table etc as possible and just got on with it really.
About a month ago we all went on a weekend away and she got drunk quite a lot and really ramped up her behaviour towards me and was very nasty, piss taking about me all through dinner on one of the nights. We then all went on to a bar and she got more drunk and when I was sitting chatting to some other friends came over and tried to slap me round the face!
I asked her what the hell she was doing and was immediately told to 'leave it' by everyone else and she was ushered off to another group of friends and just basically treated by everyone in as friendly a manner as she always had been.
The next day when I got home I was thinking about it all, and none of our mutual friends have a) ever intervened when she's been a cunt to me when we've been out, they've just sat there and let her behave like it and b) no one pulled her up on being utterly awful to me that night and trying to slap me! A couple of them have actually said to me that they're sure she didn't mean to try to slap me and that life's too short to bear a grudge and that she's very upset about it, poor thing! No one's shown me the slightest bit of sympathy or niceness about the whole thing even though I did nothing!
I'm not a confrontational person at all! I hate fallings out and conflict!
I feel now really that I should distance myself from the lot of them and stop going on nights out and weekends away, but then she's won really hasn't she?