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to be fed up of the phrase "love you to the moon and back" and the mumsnet classic "love the bones of (him)"

33 replies

celebremerge · 28/06/2017 13:19

yes it was deeply expressive when the book first came out, or when someone first said it, now it's in people's general terminology as some kind of expression of deep love, but it's made itself meaningless by its overuse

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TheLovelyOtherDinosaur · 28/06/2017 13:21

Just yes! Completely agree

BeautyGoesToBenidorm · 28/06/2017 13:22

I've never liked 'love the bones of', something about it just makes me cringe.

user98765797837 · 28/06/2017 13:26

So don't use it....simple.

My children say it when we go to bed...they change the terminology to other things/places eg...."I love you to Pluto and back" which I think is cute still. So we will continue to use it as a phase and expression of love.

"I love you" is used a lot...people say it to lovers, friends, family, pets, general people on the street who may hold a door for you....does it make it meaningless?

user98765797837 · 28/06/2017 13:27

Though I don't understand 'love the bones of'.... what does it actually mean?

QueenofEsgaroth · 28/06/2017 13:27

Yup bones is grim, always makes me question the absent remainder, what about the muscle/skin/brain/soul what have you? Is it skeleton hugging?

Originality is nice, things gets old quick these days. "Broken" is my current peeve - everywhere and not very appropriate ...

Lovegaultier · 28/06/2017 13:28

Add to that, love you to bits.

MrTumblesbitch · 28/06/2017 13:28

I think it is cute when DS says it to me, but utterly cringey when people use it to describe how much they love their partner.

celebremerge · 28/06/2017 13:28

Oh user I think it's perfectly legitimate for children to be using it. Te book, after all, was meant for them. It's when adults use it and they should be coming up with something more original if they want to convey true sentiment.

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Lovegaultier · 28/06/2017 13:29

Oh yes, agree about 'broken.' Never heard of it till recently and its on lots of threads on here.

WhatALoadOfOldBollocks · 28/06/2017 13:29

YANBU. It's very "u OK hun?" style isn't it [cringe]

peachgreen · 28/06/2017 13:30

Er... what book are these from? They're both in common parlance and have been for a long time, afaik.

QueenofEsgaroth · 28/06/2017 13:31

Ariana Grande used it quite entirely meaningfully after the bombing at her concert I think and since then it has been cloned relentlessly. I wasn't aware of the annoyance factor before that.

NataliaOsipova · 28/06/2017 13:31

Agree - it's ick. And it's all over Facebook, generally saying it about their children. I would automatically assume that you love your own child deeply and wholeheartedly and with the same love and devotion I have for my own. Why would you feel the need to declare this over the Internet in such a twee and sentimentalised fashion? Or is it just me?

celebremerge · 28/06/2017 13:31

I thought "moon and back" was in that children's book "guess how much I love you?" While it probably has been in common parlance for a long time, it was regenerated by that book and now everybody says it

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QueenofEsgaroth · 28/06/2017 13:33

In our house we say "I love you more than ..." so it changes all the time and often the funnier the better.

Never told a stranger holding a door open for me that I love them but it may have tripped out at the end of entirely wrong phone calls by accident a couple of times.

Grilledaubergines · 28/06/2017 13:33

Used those sayings for 20 odd years. They work for me.

user98765797837 · 28/06/2017 13:34

celebremerge... I have honestly never said it to my husband, nor he to me, in fact, I don't think I have heard another adult say it to another adult....that may be a bit (ok a LOT) cringeworthy lol

drinkingtea · 28/06/2017 13:37

Isn't living someone "to bits" used casually for something less than love? I don't know why logically, but that's how I've always understood it in context.

To the moon and back is just twee and meaningless posted online (I see it on Fakebook a lot) but said in private between parent and child it isn't (and isn't anyone else's business).

Really the cringable thing is posting online that you love your children - say it to them, don't post it on line, most people just take it as a given that their friends and family live their own children!

LoisWilkersonsLastNerve · 28/06/2017 13:38

Yanbu. If that makes me a gumpy bastard so be it. They make me cringe.

FreeNiki · 28/06/2017 13:40

I prefer this among adults

to be fed up of the phrase "love you to the moon and back" and the mumsnet classic "love the bones of (him)"
Missingthesea · 28/06/2017 13:48

FreeNiki I knew a couple where the bloke proposed by saying "My darlin', I think the sun shines out of your arse. Will you marry me?"
To which she replied "You big soft shite, of course I will!" Grin

waitforitfdear · 28/06/2017 13:50

'Love you lots like jelly tots'
Yeuk

agree op

FreeNiki · 28/06/2017 13:51

Missingthesea

That is awesome. Grin

AmyGardner · 28/06/2017 13:55

I use it with the kids, but I make it up as I go along.

I love as...almost as much as chips.
I love you...as much as I love the cat.
I love you...more than I love Toblerones.

JeReviens · 28/06/2017 13:57

I die a little bit every time I read that "bones of you" thing. I really do hate it that much. Never heard it said though for which I am truly thankful

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