AIBU to want a cleaner?

[TwoDogs9]

DH does no household chores, we have an approaching six month old baby, a small holding (which I run) and I also try to get into work a couple of hours a week (currently on maternity leave but due to return in October). The house is an absolute tip and it really gets me down. I'm breastfeeding our DS, DH does very little with him so I find myself doing everything. I really want a cleaner because quite frankly the house is a mess and I can't keep on top of it all. Every time I say to DH I'd like a cleaner he goes mad and says he'll do it, which results in him hoovering once! DS will be crawling soon and the thought of him crawling on these floors makes me 😱 So... AIBU in wanting a cleaner??

Nope just get one and tell him after

Get a cleaner! Now!

Get one. Don't tell him until he notices.

I think that your DH needs to be doing more, especially with the baby.

However, it's either he does it, or you get a cleaner.

It gives someone employment and the pressure of a messy house away.

I'm deliberately not saying it takes the pressure off you, because it should be the both of you.

Cleaners, clean, though, not declutter. Get rid of everything that you don't love or is needed.

of course not, if you can afford it, get one!

You could get a quote from several companies for a deep clean, you could get a few weekly regular hours, nothing wrong with that. Life is too short to dust!

On another note, as long as there's nothing dangerous to put in his mouth, it won't hurt your baby a bit to crawl on slightly dirty floors. It is much safer and healthier for them than being in a bleached house.
Still worth getting a cleaner, if only for your own sanity! It's more tricky to ask them to tidy up the place, some are very happy to do just that, but then you won't find anything.

Get a cleaner. He obviously has no idea what's involved in keeping a place clean. You can even tell him one last time that if your list isn't done every week without fail then you will instantly get a cleaner. Then the ball's in his court.

Get a cleaner. Then post on Relationships about your DH as this sounds unreasonable.

Get one. Prioritise the rooms you want thoroughly cleaned on a weekly basis, like kitchen,bathrooms, sitting room.I'm sure there'll be rooms left over for your oh to do, as he so much wants to help

Ha! He is totally unreasonable but that's a whole different story. As for clutter, my theory is that we'd be tidier because we'd know that the cleaner was due on a certain day.

zzz were you asking how to get one? I put an ad. In our local newsagents.followed up refs. - job done.

YANBU

Don't tell him "you'd like a cleaner" Be firm and say " Dh I am getting cleaner because let's face it we are not keeping on top of it, so it's happening"

I love my cleaner 😍 She comes 3 times a week for 2 hours and has done so for 6 years even before my dc came along , I didn't want to clean and neither did dh so it was the only solution.

I am a cleaner, I actually enjoy cleaning other places but hate cleaning my own, id happily get a cleaner

Get the cleaner and if DH moans tell him HE can be the cleaner if he wants!

Hell, I'm very tempted to get a cleaner for a few hours a week and I'm retired - I just hate cleaning!. If someone can afford it, why not?

YANBU, get a cleaner! Why should you live in filth if you don't have to?

Your 'D'H sounds like a complete cockwomble btw.

YANBU

DS is now 8 months and we have just got one as I'm going back to work full time.

I told OH it was split chores (ha ha ha, never going to happen!!) or he gets a cleaner as I will not spend my evenings and weekends cleaning a house when we could be out doing things with DS.

They came and did a deep clean and now they come for a couple of hours twice a week to give the house the once over and I am so much happier not having to worry about whether the bath is clean or the dusting is done.

It's an obvious solution. Just get one. Start it on an ad hoc basis so it's easier to end it if it doesn't work out. Also, make sure you get references.

I'd love a cleaner and would have one in a flash I think like you said op it helps to keep on top of stuff.

We're getting one when I go back to work.
Working full time, 4 month DD and OH away I dread to think of the state it would become!

God yes! I got a new job when DD was 3 and went back full time, very demanding 50+ hours a week and that was a condition of me taking it.

Today is our cleaner day.

DD (nearly 4) shouts "it's PAULINE DAAAAAYYYYY" when we come in the door and the flat smells all fresh.

we do play hunt the dishes when they empty the dishwasher and put everything away in the wrong place though

we do play hunt the dishes when they empty the dishwasher and put everything away in the wrong place though

Do we have the same cleaner? ;-)

Hipster If it's Pauline in Glasgow, maybe

We got a cleaner under similar circumstances. At the end of the day, with everything going on, my time is worth more to me than the cost of paying our cleaner - and she does a better job! Go for it