To think this optician is a bit over the top?

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Eye test this morning for my 11 month old. She's normally an extremely placid baby.

For the test, the doctor got the receptionist to hold her head against the metal frame, and I held her body. She started getting upset so the receptionist held her harder, really ramming her head against the metal, and told me to do the same.

By now, baby was wailing like I've never heard before, and the optician started shouting at her, she said to shock her into stopping crying. I looked a bit shocked as well I think, and the optician said, oh look now Mummy's upset too, maybe we should give her a sweetie.

Afterwards she told me that all baby eye tests are like that. AIBU to think that there are gentler ways to do it? I honestly have no idea, having never been to a baby eye test before - maybe it really is the only way.

We're allowed to go to whichever optician we like. Opticians in France are a bit like dentists in the UK though - a lot aren't accepting new patients and those that are have a waiting list of up to 6 months!

DD2 has been under various optical specialists for the first 2 years of her life and nothing like this has ever happened. It was a huge faf trying to get her still when she was a baby but they managed.

Unless the test is urgent and uncommon I think its a wierd way to do things, but we are not in France.