To have a birth photographer?

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I have found one that I absolutely love. I think it would be really nice to look back on.

WIBU?

Hahahaha

YANBU - do what you please,but don't show me the photos.

First baby?

I could not think of anything worse, but if you fancy it go for it.

Oh dear Good Luck with that!!

Actually at the birth? Or for the newborn?

It's your birth, so you do what you like and feel comfortable with.

It wouldn't be for me personally but I know people that have done so

@Winniethepooer no, I had a still born in 2008 and wish I had one.

I guess it may seem gross to some people, but I suppose I didn't think of that! They don't take pictures of the baby coming out.

YANBU! I always say to OH that o wish I had photos or video of my Labour. It will have to be someone you trusted

I could have used a birth photographer. Three days in labour and off my tits on drugs - my recollection of events is hazy to say the least husband told me the aftermath was like a scene from MASH

Can't imagine you'll want someone there when in pain etc snapping away but whatever you want - it's your body. Unless it's in hospital and surely you won't get the chance as it will be one person only? I think you could be setting yourself up for disappointment if your birth doesn't go as planned.

If you mean for once baby is born - probably easier to just get dh or the dreaded ward photographer people to take pics.

I would have loved this. They're not all going to be fanny shots - capturing the emotion, the team, the first glimpse of your child would be amazing to have and look back on. I say go for it.

Just read your update - whatever makes it easier for you then it's what you should do

I'm so sorry for your still born.

I had a late miscarriage and it wasn't for me, but different strokes and all that.

Hugs and flowers.

I have seen some beautiful photos of home births but not sure if it'd work out with a hospital birth.

I would have loved one! Why not, if you want to do it and can afford it then go for it!

Go for it, a friend of mine had one at her home birth and the photos were absolutely beautiful.

Sorry for your loss Op

I had 1 of my dcs birth filmed (water birth) & photographed.

The most serile & unusual of all my dc.

Photos were brilliant but I've never watched the film.

I couldn't bare the sound of my own distress. I was terrified. Ds was my 4th dc but i knew something was wrong. Sadly i was right...

I'm so sorry about yoir first baby. I do now see where you are coming from, but having birthed a baby who had sadly died myself I see birth as a medical procedure full of worry and fear. So for me it's a very emotional and personal time. I also regret not having any photos of my baby though so do understand.

I'm due to give birth soon and have asked my husband to take lots of photos for me so I can see it from the other side too. But I personally don't want a stranger there. The photos will just be for us.

So sorry for your loss OP.

I've had 2 children and if I had a third would get a birth photographer if I could. I've had really positive births and would love to have all the emotion etc captured.

I think you should do whatever will make the experience more positive and less anxiety inducing for you x

Yanbu at all. Some fantastic birth photography on the Birth Without Fear FB page.

Why not? What you want then go for it x

If it's an actual thing then I guess you can do what you like. I had a pretty good labour. I looked fucking terrible after the birth though. And not in that faux-terrible, no make-up-but-beautifully-posed way I've seen on social media. Like, really, really terrible. DH took a photo soon after and it was SO hot in that room that I just looked like a great big fat red swollen tomato. I know it's all about the moment, new baby, blah blah blah... but I can't look at that photo without thinking "JUST OPEN A FUCKING WINDOW!!!" (It was December!) I'm not sure a professional would have made any difference.

Do they photograph the labour too? Personally, I'm of the "fuck that" persuasion in that respect, but it's totally your choice and why the hell not if it's something you want?

So sorry for your loss

I wasn't really into the idea of having photos of DS when he was born, but (I had an ECS) as they were wheeling me into the operating room, they told DH to bring his phone and told him to get it ready when they took DS out - I LOVE those photos (which I never thought I would). DH and I are the only people who have ever seen them (and probably we'll show DS when he's older), but there is something really special about capturing the moment he was born. Having a professional in there (rather than relying on DH and his phone) is a great idea, particularly if it's someone you feel comfortable with

If it's what you want, go for it.

I've seen some beautiful birth photos and feel quite envious of them.

Don't think I would have wanted many of me but would have treasured some really good ones of the dc as newborns.