Something DH said

[LuckyAmy1986]

so I have been watching the This Morning phone in which is about affairs. DH called me and I told him about a lady who saw her husband snogging the neighbour after a party, both drunk and in front of their daughter. I said how disgusting that was.
He said it's bad that is was in front of the daughter but it's forgivable. I was shocked. I said so you would be ok if I snogged your best friend? He said yes if you were both drunk, I would just laugh it off. I said well be under no illusion if you ever did that I wouldn't just laugh it off. And he said yes but I am more laid back than you. WTF

6079 completely agree the worst bit was about the daughter.

Anyway I have just spoken to DH again, feel a bit better about it. He said what he meant was he wouldn't end it if I did that, he wouldn't want to destroy 4 lives (mine, his and the kids) for one mistake. He wouldn't think it was acceptable at all but he wouldn't end the marriage over it. Then said it's easy for me to say now of course, if you ever did, maybe I would feel differently.

Winnie, I honestly don't know but it would shatter the trust and he wouldn't be the person I thought he was. Plus the being drunk thing is no excuse for me. I would like to think I would get over it but that would be very difficult. Hopefully I won't ever have to make that decision.

I consider a full on snog to be a prelude to what's to come - if not immediately, but eventually.

A chaste kiss on the cheek in greeting or farewell is fine, on the lips would be poorly judged & raise my eyebrows - but a full on snog - naha, no sir-ee total deal breaker for me.

OP, do any of DH's friends look snoggable? Maybe you should discuss it in more detail when he gets home, give him an Oscar worthy snog &when he comes up for air, say "So darling, you'd be ok if I did that to your best friend if I was drunk? Oh, and can the DC watch?"

Wrong, wrong, wrong.

t depends what the kiss means.
If it's a kiss for a laugh, no sexual feelings or temptations, I could forgive that.If it was a kiss because they felt swayed by the mood, a sudden attraction to each other or just a desire to kiss/do more with whoever was around, no I would not forgive that. I can keep it in my pants, I expect the same from him

Do you wear your pants on your head?

It's one of those middle ground things - I'd be super upset if my DH did that, but if everything else was as it is, I wouldn't chuck our marriage over it.

But - if we'd just started dating I'd ditch him.

I think if you can say off the cuff you'd let it go, you've never kissed a stranger and just, I dunno, had a really good kiss!

hesitates to use 'fanny gallops' twice on on thread

A kiss wouldn't really bother me, if it was a spur of the moment thing or a drunken thing. A planned kiss though (ie meeting the other person purposely for a romantic reason) or one leading to intimacy would really hurt me. I don't think I would leave DH for it (and I don't think he would leave me if I snogged someone) but the intention would be crucial.