Guy contacting me via Facebook but now being "elusive" and weird

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So I've recently come out of a long term relationship so very vulnerable. It's obvious on my Facebook profile that myself and ex no together.

This guy I've not heard from in like 10 years contacts me wanting to meet but we live quite far apart. He keeps insisting he wants to meet, told me how he thinks about me all the time and i even asked about why there is no Mrs and he said be cause she has moved away to pursue work aka me. I obviously thought he has some interest in me and we continued to chat via whatsapp but he keeps saying he is so busy and not ready to meet yet. Initially he was very quick and keen to reply but lately doesn't seem that interested and latest message to him he has read but not replied in 4 days!

Now I think I've come in too strong been too available but honestly o thought he was chatting me up to eventually meet as you would do if you liked someone's profile on a dating app only we've known each other before and been out on a "date" and he used to drop me home from work a lot. So did not feel I had to be overly shy.

I think he still wants to meet but not heard from him should I just push this one to ignore and move on?

Ignore him till he comes up with a specific time to meet, eg next weekend. That will probably weed him out. He sounds like one of the 'all talk' types.

Ignore, move on. He's yanking your chain for an ego boost and yes, there probably is a partner/wife in the background.

Yes I asked about this numerous times and he sent me pictures from his office late at night and said if he was married he'd be divorced by now??!!

He works in mortgages and finance and claims to have numerous meetings and spends hours trying to improve relations with customers

To be honest I don't want to cut him off completely due to his overt keenness in but I don't want to emotionally invest in this too much

One thing though is I changed my number over the years and he claims to have sent numerous messages that I "ignored" but obviously never saw. Ok I did notice some Facebook messages I missed but I'm wondering if he is a little bitter and playing a game to be honest

Ignore and move on.

Messaging you was probably a harmless fantasy for him when he was bored at work, and he's got cold feet now it's turned into a reality.

Don't badger him into a date. Not nice for either of you.

bet you he's in a relationship / married.
just looking for a new variety of fuck.

move on, please.

No badgering by me just responding to his messages that's all. Even when he facebooked me and begged me to add him on whatsapp I was hesitant and wished I had not now. I think my responses became too available. As I said will just leave him for now.

He's avoiding your direct questions, fluffing around with whether he wants to meet or not and telling you that you've been ignoring him when you just hadn't received his messages.

This does not sound like a budding romance. He's confusing, presents ever shifting goalposts and is happy to frame what he says in a way that blames you slightly (the ignoring). I'll bet those themes would persist into any relationship...

You can do better!