To appologise

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To anyone who struggles with their weight.

I used to be a size 6-8, weighed about 8.5 stone. I judge people who were overweight for being lazy.

I had my dc, I ended up with PND and on a high dose of Prozac. Which has caused me to balloon to 13 stone and a size 14-16. I feel horrific for how judgemental I was and now I know how gaining weight because of illness/medication/child rearing is such an awful thing which leaves you with no confidence whatsoever, I apologise from the bottom of my heart. I now realise it's not always laziness and I hope people don't judge me like I would have before.

Sounds like you are looking for a bit of a kicking OP which really isn't going to be helpful for you.

Are you getting help for your PND?

Everyone has been a bit of an arse at some point, doesn't make you a bad person, life experience teaches you. You've learned a lesson, don't beat yourself up.

Yeah I receive counselling on average once a fortnight and I am on 60mg Prozac. These help but my weight has shot uo which doesn't help!!

There are plenty of size 14-16 women who are happy and confident.
You are clearly feeling low Biggest, but what people weigh does not determine how confident or happy they are in general. Your perception of this is not quite right.

Doesn't bother me if you were disgusted by me, I disgust myself!

Sorry you're feeling rough but seriously don't worry about passing feelings you once had.

What is the point of your post please? That you used to be a bitch about overweight people till it happened to you? What has prompted you to post this?

For what it's worth I was always a skinny Minnie too. On my 2nd pregnancy now so that's a long time ago. I can't say I ever thought too much about other peoples sizes but I did work in a clothes shop and remember saying to someone who asked for an item in a 16, matter of factly, sorry we don't have any big sizes left.

I wouldn't have meant it with a hint of nastiness but I cringe at the thought of my size 8 self saying that to someone and the effect that could have had. It will definitely be my karma if someone ever says that to me!!

Bottom line is it doesn't sound like you were ever purposefully nasty to anyone you just didn't have any empathy and had a few private judgy thoughts. Most people do about something but like I said, you have lived and learned!

Really glad you are getting help with the pnd. My advice would be to tackle the weight once you are feeling better. You might lose the weight but you won't lose the sense of perspective and ultimately you will be a better person for it!

Well there are some people judging, as you used to do, but as long as they keep their mouths closed they aren't doing me any harm (though morally it's probably better to be fat but not thinking ill of others than thin and judgmental I guess). It's important not to care what people are privately thinking about you.

I've been 13st and a size 14 most my life. Only reason I lost weight was ttc. I have always been confident, bubbly, friendly, and attractive to nice men. I think maybe your self-esteem was always low - judgemental people often do it from a place of insecurity. Therapy and meds should help.

Hi Op, I think that's a very noble sentiment, and a brave thing for you to post. Weight issues are never straightforward and are often tangled up with very deep-rooted emotional problems. I was the opposite of you: I had been overweight all my life and about ten years ago lost six stone. I felt there was a kind of tyranny to being thin: not a lot of people were pleased for me, I felt enormous pressure to develop a new personality to go with my new waistline, I got ogled (everything shrunk except my boobs), etc, etc. Then I got pregnant with DS, got gloriously plump again and feel very much happier, and genuinely do not give a rat's arse what anyone else thinks! There are much, much worse things people can be than fat. Be kind to yourself

Everyone judges soemone about something. Human nature, wouldn't give it a second thought.