To want out of this lift share?

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Or rather how do I get out of this lift share?

I'm sharing lifts to work with a friend (each take turns using our own cars). It's just not working for me: she keeps a slightly later work schedule than me for starters, and then often runs over. I'm lucky to have a job where I can leave on time most days so I can get home half an earlier if I'm alone. Especially in summer that's a big deal for me, as. I get depression in the winter and want to make the most of light evenings while I have them.

The only problem is, it would obviously increase each of our travel costs, and I think she'd be annoyed with me.

How would you go about 'breaking it off'?

Sorry half an hour* earlier I should have said

Just say you can get home earlier if you leave on your own? :)

You have to be honest. This isn't working for you as well as it works for her, so you just have to say that you want to get in earlier/leave earlier.
If she takes offence then she is being selfish.

It's OK to just say it's not working for you as you are missing the extra time you get at home on days that you can leave when it suits you.

Perhaps suggest dropping down to sharing just once or twice a week so that you still get the benefit of both the environmental, and money-saving pluses of lift-sharing and the pluses of independence occasionally?

No drama.

Just say "I think I'm going to start driving myself every day from next week, its been great sharing costs but I can get ho,me a bit earlier if I drive myself and I think I prefer the extra time at home"

What kinda md of person do you share with? Are they likely to be reasonable about your change?

'Hi. It's just not working for me. OP'

I think honesty is best, if you were my friend I wouldn't be offended as who wouldn't want half an hour to themselves? Just say thanks very much but you are going to go back to driving yourself as you don't want to be late and you want time to yourself

Just be honest!

You're not doing anything wrong. For all you know she may be regretting it too.

Hi OP, it's only once to say, easier said than done, I know.
I would stop sharing completely, as it isn't working out for you.
Don't make excuses, just tell her the truth. If she is a strong character, just keep saying, it doesn't work for you.
Let us know how you get on. Do it sooner, rather than later.