To be a bit startled that this person is on my FB friends list

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I am a combination of lazy/welcoming/aware that it works as promo, when it comes to Facebook. So I have quite a lot of 'friends' that I either met once or who know someone who I know. I' m generally not bothered (My FB page includes a bit of self-publicizing of my work).

But a while ago, I had a minor spat with someone in the category of 'not actually sure who you are but we have some mates in common'. This person threw a MEGA tantrum, allegedly deleted own FB account because I am such a horrible person (and several of the mutual acquaintances send e lots of 'You are a really bad person' messages).

Let's say I gave about five percent of a fuck anyway. But now, for some reason, posts from this person are showing up on my FB feed again. And apparently we are 'friends'.

Not entirely sure whether to ignore, unfriend, or send a passive aggressive message along the lines of 'Oh, have you decided I'm not a cunt after all, or something? Or are you just in need of something else to have a tantrum about?'

Sounds like you were blocked and are now unblocked.

Surely if they deleted their fb account and later set up a new one they would have had to friend request you again. If you didn't get a friend request from them it suggests they were lying and never unfriended you.

They would have deactivated their account and then reactivated it, meaning all friends and old posts would have remained.

just block them or if you want some sort of reaction, make a little group, put them in it, and then exclude that group from your posts, so they cannot see anything you post and see how long it takes them to notice

that's quite fun imo :o

Maybe they temporarily deactivated their account? Rather than permanently deleting it?

I had that with a friend a while back. They took a break from FB, disappeared from my friends list. And then reappeared a few months later, with some status update about them not being able to stay away from FB popping up on my FB feed.

Ah well. Either my charm is completely irresistible and no one can ever stop being my friend, or the silly twat is hunting for another bruising.
Either way.... meh.

You can deactivate your account which shuts it down but keeps all the information instead of actually deleting it entirely which would loose all your photos and friends lists and such.

They probably deactivated it and have recently reactived it but didn't bother actually removing you as a friend before deactivating.

That makes sense. I probably only noticed because i recently discovered the thing on Facebook where you can switch to 'most recent' instead of 'top stories' anyway.

What on earth did you say which pissed them off so much?

Person was being a twat about something. I pointed this out. Maybe not very dipolomatically, but person was being a serious twat. Person then started boohooing about how horrible it was to be told to grow the fuck up, and deleted FB account in a way that would cause maximum 'OMG have you heard from [person] who was so dreadfully upset?' drama.

I've got another one at the moment, to whom it has not occurred to either block/unfriend me or indeed to flounce with as much fuss as possible. The current one alternates between posting really quite appalling ignorant Daily-Maily racism and crying because other people have objected to the ''But I'm just proud to be a patriot'' rubbish.
(I don't, generally, block people if they have basically painted a target on themselves. Up to them to decide to block me.)

Sounds like they have reactivated their account.

What did you do that was so bad? (I'm just nosy)

Just block them. Not worth the headspace

Oh I love a good scrap. I leave it up to other people to decide to block/unfriend me. Was just moderately amused that this person, who had such a huge great poor-me-being-bullied strop, either didn't notice that we are still allegedly 'friends' or is hanging around in the hope of being able to be even more tiresome.

Sounds like you were blocked and are now unblocked.

No, because blocking someone automatically defriends them.

This person may be in interested in your friends more than you, for networking contacts. IIWM I would block this person since you would start to give a fuck if he/she poached from you a contact important to you.

What work do you do? Personally I wouldn't think it's making you look professional to be having FB spats like this and swearing.

Anyway block and rise above.

Previous posters have it right. She didn't delete her account, she just deactivated for a while, therefore when reactivated everything returns to normal.

You weren't blocked and then unblocked, because when you block someone it automatically unfriends them.

You both sound very childish here tbh.

Block them while you can still see them. I had a client a few years back who deactivated her account and now and then would temporarily reactivate it during the night and see what her ex's family are all up to.

It sounds as if you have a tendency towards bullying online. Are you so quick to call ppl out IRL? If not, I'd question your online behaviour. Sure, ppl should be challenged if they post the usual Daily Mail drivel but it sounds like you go beyond this. If you were really bothered then you would block them but you seem content to have your news feed cluttered with rubbish.

I'd be very interested to hear the other person's version of events.

And you might want to think twice about flame wars on the same channel you use for self promotion.

You both sound very childish here tbh.

I agree with this. You sound like you like the dramaz.

If you're promoting something all this drama makes it look very soap operaesque and that's pathetic. Unless you're one of those sorts of soap "performers" you'll be doing yourself a disservice.

I assume your both very young but why do you care? Either unfreind her or forget about it, it's not even a person you know in real life is it?

The stealth boasting aspect is really irritating - "Goodbye cruel world" is the flippantly insensitive icing on that particular cake.

The flowery language seems ok though, why not write nicely?

Perhaps she wrote it on a whim and didn't realise her status would be repeated and scrutinised, on a different website?