To want another baby if we can't move house

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DH and I live in a fairly small 2 bed house. We have a garden but can't extend in to it as ex HA property and they won't allow it (there's a fairly restrictive contract that we had to sign when we bought it from them). We can't move house due to DH being self employed and some other issues.

We currently have an 11mo DD, and we have my DH's son (aged 8) every other weekend - we can't have him more as he lives quite a distance away. The kids have to share the 2nd bedroom which is fine for now as DSS is only here 2 nights in 14.

However, I'm now 37 and time is getting on if we want another DC, which we do. We had a hard time conceiving DD so don't want to leave it too long if we do try again.

So, would we be U to go for it and hope that we could move in a couple of years? Is 3 kids in one room just too much, especially given the age gap between DSS and the little one(s) if we can't move? He'll have to share with DD when he's here anyway as there's no other option, so could we do bunk beds and a cot?? There's no way of fitting a cot in our room either so that's not an option, bedrooms are quite small!

You could always have a custom bed made to fit the space on the landing. You could even cut costs an diy it with a memory foam mattress and wooden frame cut down to size.

Go for it, especially as you have a clear plan for how to get a bigger house in a few years.

Knowing you had difficulty getting pregnant before, crack on now. If your living situation doesn't improve it is not the end of the world. Get a sofa bed, you guys sleep on that and let your DSS sleep in your room when he visits. Or the other 2 if he'd be offended by that. Housing and finances can change, leaving it too late to have another child you both want and missing the chance won't change. Good luck

Don't wait - with ttc time and the fact that baby will sleep near you for the first 6 months to two years, it could be 4 years before space is a pressing problem.

I'm glad you're considering moving in to the lounge Honestly it is such a good idea! Would you do the room up for him too?

He's quite happy sharing with DD at the moment luckily, although I know that may change as he gets older - but then I would assume he will come here less as he wants to do more with his friends. DH knows this will come at some point. I do think a move will be possible in a few years, it's just a waiting game until his credit improves enough, and accounts show enough profit (we had to plough a lot of money back into th business in the first couple of years). Thanks for all of your advice - another good think coming soon I reckon!

Op if you want another baby then go for it and try you have 2 choices though 1 you could move in to the living room and give your bedroom up for DSS 2 convert your loft make that in to another bedroom for you and your DH and give your DSS your old bedroom. Either way good luck with whatever you decide to do.

How can the HA stop you extending now you own the property? Is it leasehold?

We would just leave our room when he is here so wouldn't do it up for him - no sense in giving him the room full time when he's here so little. It does make sense definitely.

As for renting ours out, the house next door has been absolutely trashed by the last two lots of tenants, so no chance! Ha ha. We've done a lot of work to it and couldn't risk it being devalued as we would need its equity to purchase new house.

You can buy short mattresses a and built in beds - similar to this -

I would just go for it op. You'll make it work Best of luck!