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About my mother and favouritism?

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NCforadvicetoday · 22/06/2017 18:49

I'm at the end of my tether with my mum and her obvious favouritism for one of my siblings. It's bad enough that she blatantly says one of his DC is her favourite but seriously my brother can do NO wrong. Just to give a few examples:
Having more kids that him and his GF can't afford - if it was anyone else my mum would slate them for it.
Losing jobs because he can't get his thirty odd year old self up for work - not his fault, boss is unreasonable, we don't know the full story etc.
'Lends' him untold amounts of cash which we know he never pays back. We buy her things, take her out for meals, on holiday, treat her all the time basically but we asked to borrow a small appliance over the weekend as ours blew up late on a Friday night but she wouldn't let us (even though she doesn't use said appliance)
His GF is a arse, specifically with his DD from previous relationship but we are all 'imagining things' and brother would never allow that to happen (he fucking does)
She babysits NON STOP for them as GF struggles while brother is at work (yet is pregnant again - supposedly a surprise)
And now another relative has gotten him his most recent job and he's started getting ideas well above his station and thinking he should get the same pay as our more experienced harder working relative who's served much longer with employer - apparently because they do the same job (except relative is senior) they should get the same pay and he should be backed up with his request because he is family.
When asked our opinion obviously we said no, it doesn't work like that. To which she responded that we don't know the whole story and they are being massively unreasonable with him!!
AIBU to think her behaviour is just completely twattish??

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RoyalUnited · 22/06/2017 19:04

Let her get on with it OP.

I really wouldn't engage with it at all - she's a grown woman and its her decision.

Do you still want to buy her things/pay for meals out when she won't even lend you an item that she doesn't even use? I wouldn't...

How do you feel about it? It is heart-breaking to realise that a parent is capable of this kind of favouritism.

Chloe84 · 22/06/2017 19:11

Do you still want to buy her things/pay for meals out when she won't even lend you an item that she doesn't even use? I wouldn't...

I agreee with this.

NCforadvicetoday · 22/06/2017 19:31

Thing is if we dare piss her off she'll create holy hell within the family. Helped by my brothers shit head of a GF who LOVES a good drama 🙄
I'm not kidding you my brother could burn her house down and she would STILL find some reason why it wasn't his fault - even if he poured petrol through the letterbox and chucked in a lit match 😪👊🏻

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Chloe84 · 22/06/2017 20:15

No need to piss her off, just say finances are tough and you can't afford to take her on holiday. Scale back presents and spend less.

You sound like the family scapegoat, don't let them treat you like this!

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