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To leave my job without one to go to? So unhappy.

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hopelesslyhonourable · 22/06/2017 13:47

I'm a teacher, so logically I should stay until the end of term, I know.

But I have hated it since I started and it's just not right for me.

I feel absolutely rubbish because I know I 'should' stay and see it out but I feel sick at the thought of going in.

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Cacofonix · 22/06/2017 14:04

Oh God, if you can afford to go! I moved from a challenging urban school where I had been teaching 6 years to a lovely rural one a few years back. Oh my the head wad such a controlling bully! She had only hired me because the governors had insisted on an experienced teacher - she usually hired NQTs and all of the staff told me at various times they had hidden crying in the toilets. Argh!! Anyway I left after 2 terms. I was so desperately unhappy that the relief when I drove away was immense - I cried!! I remember sheepishly telling my Dad I had left expecting him to berate me but he just said life is way too short to be truly miserable like I was. So don't cling on if its not right for you. It never harmed me and I found a new job no problem.


DSHathawayGivesMeFannyGallops · 22/06/2017 14:08

If you can do so, and it will really help you, do it. I've got a career gap on my cv already or I'd jack in my job. I'm desperate to leave!


MiniCooperLover · 22/06/2017 14:15

Term ends in 4 weeks? Won't you make yourself look incredibly unreliable if you go now?


MissBax · 22/06/2017 14:17

If there's no way it could improve in the next 4 weeks, if at all, then leave if you can OP. What would your plan be after? Would you stay in teaching? I'd probably worry about a reference myself, but if you can't stand it then don't put yourself through hell - just leave. Hope things work out ♥


LaurieMarlow · 22/06/2017 14:20

If you think you can manage to see out the 4 weeks without major impact on your mental health, I would as it will look better.


Bat3 · 22/06/2017 14:20

Leave. But wait til the end of term.

I left a teaching post with no other job to go to, 2 years ago. Best thing I ever did (besides having my children). Should have done it much earlier, but kept hanging on.


ToEarlyForDecorations · 22/06/2017 14:21

Self certify yourself sick for the legally allowed 7 days ? Then request your annual leave shortly after you return ?

Write out your resignation letter to cheer yourself up. In fact, write two of them. One where you say all you wan to say, but don't send it. The second one is the professional brief and to the point one that your boss gets.

Can you plan your time to the end of term to keep your time at work to a minimum ?

I know that doesn't help if you are dreading going in at all.

If you resign and work your resignation period that might give you something to aim for.


hopelesslyhonourable · 22/06/2017 14:38

I don't get any sick pay and there's no notice period (it's through an agency.)

Thing is, it's unlikely now there would be anything else until September so ... money Hmm

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Redhound · 22/06/2017 14:41

Lifes too short to be that miserable. Leave and find a temporary job until September.


scaryclown · 22/06/2017 17:04

I did this and it was brilliant. Very stressful in one way, but traded for hating myself every single hour, it was worth it. Getting a job in x weeks should be your solid focus. I worried about not seeming reliable / gossip. Getting. Magically to every new workplace etc but it doesn't. I started in a new place and its been brilliant. .a place where stress is minimal means you get your psychology back, which is worth it.
Show your reliability by being reliable in the new job...


scaryclown · 22/06/2017 17:07

Also try this.
Meet, say you are leaving. Say jokingly that you'd stay for double the rate. A friend of mine did this in teaching and ended up at at a consultant day rate(paid, in Eden tally, from a retention fund the head had been sitting on because no one had asked for it..)


Pariswhenitdrizzles · 22/06/2017 19:25

hopelessly I really feel for you :( Flowers I was in a very similar situation to you last winter (I was doing a PGCE though, rather than work arranged through an agency).

I ended up quitting last November (after only spending a couple of months in the job Blush). It was absolutely the best decision I've ever made though.

I really struggled with teaching and didn't feel like much effective support from my school or training provider, so every day became a battle to go in and I would cry on my way into school and way back.

Like you, I was concerned about giving up the teaching job without having another job to go to.

Could you go into tutoring (for example) whilst you look for another job? As well as being quite flexible work, it often pays very well, and I'm sure you'd be in demand with your teaching experience! :)


Pariswhenitdrizzles · 22/06/2017 19:29

Also hopelessly is there any chance you could book an appointment with your GP for some mental health support (if you feel this might be helpful)?

I did this when I was still on the PGCE, and was referred to counselling through my GP.

I was also offered free careers counselling through this, which I'm still doing. I can't recommend it highly enough - my careers coach is absolutely fantastic, and so helpful.

Would this be helpful to you, or an option that would be available to you where you are?

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