DH asked me to pose this question on here as women are well known for being utterly brilliant and all that jazz.
My MIL lives in a home for the elderly for the past couple of years. She is incredibly happy there and she has got a new lease of life and she is now swanning around with a really lovely bunch of friends.
Initially her insurance paid all the bills but now they are doing the classic refusal to pay so she is having to fund it herself. It is in no way cheap as it has shed loads of chandeliers and stuff.
Aaaanyway! When she first moved there she was in a bad place both health wise and mentally and we live very far away ( initially we lived overseas). So we made the decision to Employ a really lovely woman to come in three times a week to do light cleaning and errands. She was absolutely brilliant at keeping us informed and to keep an eye on the staff to ensure that they were doing everything right by MIL
As MIL became better and blossomed in confidence there was some friction as she felt that she did not need the extra help and she was too busy having a lovely time with all her friends. There was also some trust issues.
So we cut her hours down as MIL really wasn't happy with it. We felt bad as we know she was relying on the money but told her to clock all the hours she did as and when and we would pay her.
Well she continuously clocks more than her contracted hours which has made DH and his mother raise their eyebrows a few times but have let it go.
Last week DH went up for a visit. He took the 'helper' out for dinner to have a proper chat about his mother and show his sincere appreciation for what she does for both us and his mother.
Our long winded question is this: was she cheeky then to clock the time spent at dinner that we paid for and expect to be paid?