I was a SAHM for nearly 10 years and a few months ago I got the "perfect" job - fits within schools hours, term-time only and local. I initially enjoyed it and got confidence from having another identity after so long as "mum" and "wife" of. It's an admin job and as time has gone on I realise that although I enjoy the social aspect of being at work, the work itself is now quite boring and apart from other admin-type jobs in the same organisation, I can't see much future there.
The salary is low, though I admit I have enjoyed earning some of "my" money. But the fact is we don't need this salary and we have always pooled our money. DH has always been very supportive and fair about our roles - seeing ourselves as part of a team. He has a fab career and earns over 10 times what I earn doing this PT job. So WIBU to quit and maybe do volunteering and hobbies or studying and running the home?
I really miss having time at home to potter and it has to be said that even with a cleaner once a week the running of the home has gone to pot and we now spend our evenings and weekends doing a lot of the things I used to do during school hours. I have also given up my hobbies and gained weight through lack of exercise. DH works long hours and travels and our quality of life is definitely affected by my working.
Please don't roast me alive. I know I am in a very privileged position. In some ways I also feel there are people more deserving of this job who need the money more than I do.