To be slightly annoyed with family?

[MidnightPanda]

I'm a single parent to 4 and 5 old, only family my kids have is their maternal grandparents and maternal aunt.

Were not overly close but just wonder why they never call/text to wish them a happy birthday?
It's DS' 4th today he'd love a phone call or birthday message from nanny or grandad or even their aunt

Am I being precious or not? Feeling like shit as it's like I'm the only one who cares about them

That isn't good at all YANBU

Yabu

I do think it's poor form when grandparent/aunt/uncles etc can't even send a card.

Everyone owns a paper calendar or has a calendar on there phone to remind them of the date and cards aren't expensive, it doesn't take make out of a day to call for 10 minutes. It's pure laziness

No doubt your ds has had a good day regardless though

YANBU not yabu

You are not being precious. It's not like saying I wish they would spend more than they can afford because!y DS wants a big present. Immediate family can reasonably be expected to pick up the phone to wish a child happy birthday unless there is some major crisis in their lives at the minute. Happy birthday to your DS op

Did they send a card?

That is awful. Y are definitely NBU.

None of my DCs DGPs have ever phoned to talk to them on their birthday or on Xmas Day etc in fact never phoned any of them ever. They would all get the right hump though if DH or I didn't call to wish them a happy birthday etc.

They will reap what they sow sadly. My kids care very little about their grandparents because they've never bothered building a relationship and I do think it's down to the adults to make the effort not the kids.

Do they not send cards or presents? We never got a call from grandparents or aunty on birthdays - the odd one at Christmas.

Thanks for responses, I feel better , he had a nice day

They have never sent a card, no, though we send/give in person a card for every occasion, and go to see them if we can or gie a phone call at the least.
Although they have given money twice for a birthdays.

Yanbu! My mil never calls dh on his birthday and it makes me a little sad! And he's 47!! Family should acknowledge birthdays!

Thank you angelic

Yanbu, that's horrible.

Yanbu
That is really sad - the adults are really missing out on what could be a special relationship. The kids won't be bothered having anything to do with them before long and who can blame them.
My mum died the day before my twin niece and neohew's birthday (sil's kids so no relation to my mum) I still managed to pick up the phone. Hearing their happy wee voices was the only nice thing about that day.

Your right Platypus (great name btw), no matter your age it's your 'special day'
I feel sad for your dh, that's quite harsh not to ring your own son

Tell them to send him a card! If they are giving money it sounds like they aren't completely uninterested, maybe just clueless about the fact that a four year old would appreciate a card or phonecall from them far more than money.

How often do they see the DC?

Ana sorry for your loss
Such a great aunt! Your right, the kids won't bother soon enough. Same happened with their father. He lost interest, then kids lost interest too. It'll be a shame for them as they are the only grandkids aswell

Definitely YANBU,
it's my DS's birthday this week, no gift/card from my mum, no gift/card from my MiL, it's a key birthday, stuff has arrived since birthday from my mum, nil from MiL, both 'forgot' neither work.
My view, we do the right thing, we make a fuss, they know we will always be there, we are not responsible for our parents. Does it cause upset. Damn right, but I can't be responsible for them & yes, I remind them beforehand. Do they expect (and get) a song and dance on their birthday, Yes! (FFS!). But ultimately they damage their own relationship with their grandchildren. When they want to bask in the reflective glory, and they do, they're not invited.
I'm sorry this has happened to you and your child, it shitty and it hurts, but you are the constant, the comfort, the cheerleader, if you provide consistency it doesn't matter if the others are flakes (but you can still be annoyed with them)