To be annoyed and feel not cared about?

[Tippitoesandbuttonnose]

So it's my 21st party in 2 weeks and I sent out invitations ages ago. But because at my age I don't see all of my friends unless a night out etc I don't have addresses so sent people private messages on text or Facebook etc asking them that way.

I'm frustrated for a few reasons

1. Not one person has specifically RSVP'd to me but when I've chased them up they've said they had every intention of coming. So why not tell me so?

1. I am still in contact with a few people from my old job and live by one specifically so I asked if I could pass all invitations for people who work there to this one girl to pass out. (it's a school and they all work in the same part of the school so no need for her to run round). But when I've chased up whether they're coming people haven't recieved invitations and I think she just hasn't given them out! It'd be very like her.

1. The girl who was my best friend there has finally replied to my messages after me messaging her for weeks and said she has a family party that day but always makes plans after she's already agreed to plans with me which she did ages ago telling me she was coming. I simply don't believe her.

I feel like no one wants to come and I'm paying like a grand for this party and don't even feel it's worth it :(

Aw, YANBU, people suck.
It's not hard to reply is it. As for the girl not giving out the invitations, sadly sometimes you find out the hard way that someone isn't who you thought they were
I am sure someone else will be along to offer some sage advice. Didn't want to read and run.
I hope you have a lovely party and wish you all the best enjoy being a youngster xxx

I'm more worried of being embarrassed that l booked a beautiful venue and it won't even be filled because I don't know who is coming.

It seems these days no one RSVPs and everyone is very flakey and real friends are hard to find. BUT don't be disheartened as generally more people come than you expect so just go ahead with it and I'm sure it'll be fab x

This is why I don't do parties for my birthday and haven't since I was 10. For my 18th I went to Paris and for my 21st I went to Rome with DP for a long weekend. Turn my phone off and don't have the disappointment of quite how many people can't even be arsed to text a happy birthday message. People are so flakey nowadays it's not worth relying on anyone. Hopefully people are just being lazy and you will have a nice crowd to enjoy your birthday with you OP.

Thanks everyone!! Can I just brag about my dress a little bit too

Lovely dress!!

You look fantastic, hope it turns out to be a great night.

It sounds like a lot of money, maybe a more relaxed meet in a pub or club would take the pressure off?

Open the invite to MNetters if you need more numbers. We'd all love a night out!

witsender I have family members flying in from Dublin so not possible and I have already paid.

Why are there two pictures blurring/cutting out the face as if you don't want to identify yourself when the women in the photos are clearly two different people wearing the same/similar dress with different hair colour/style and different races to each other?

I haven't cut out the faces the pictures were like that. They're from the company who made the dress Instagram. I'm not trying to pass them off as me as I haven't worn it yet have I?? 🤔