To at least expect an apology

[notmywords]

We are going away for a long weekend. Leaving Friday morning and it's a 4 hour drive.

DH has rung to say we won't be able to leave until lunchtime because of something else he's organised.

It's a sideline business to do with his hobby and someone is coming to collect something.

I am fuming. DH is in full 'it's not my fault, can't be helped mode' as if it's somehow nothing to do with him.

AIBU to at least want him to apologise and make it up to us for basically taking away 5 hours of our holiday.

I would be expecting him to make arrangements to have the item collected/delivered the night before, or first thing in the morning, or after the weekend.

Is that an option?

No not really. He has to be there and apparently the person is travelling a long way.

He clearly arranged the time/date with whoever's collecting, so yes, it's his fault, so what is he going to do to make it up to you.

I'd be cross, too. It would be a waste of holiday.

Argh, how rude not to even ask you :(

And as for now not taking responsibility, well... VVVVU. What an arse.

Sorry for your loss of holiday hours notmywords. I be miffed too.

Is he the main/only earner in the house? Would he be the one doing the actual driving?

I think he should have rescheduled the transaction if possible. But sounds like it wasn't possible without either party incurring a time/cost penalty.

He needs to either rearrange the appointment or travel to the holiday by himself and join you there.

I'd be annoyed too...and asking him to make it up to me somehow.

I would need an apology and a proper acknowledgement from him that he understands that he messed up and how it's going to inconvenience you all.

He should travel the long way beforehand to deliver the item himself, so he can leave on the Fri morning in a timely manner.

Or courier it.

You need more than an apology. You need a husband who cares more about his wife than his hobby.

But yanbu. The least you could have is an apology. Is he always so self-absorbed?

He has apologised and asked the man to come as early as he can.

Can't he get someone else to deal with the handover?

Or could he deliver it to the person the previous day?