AIBU?

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If someone came to visit, and upon knocking on the door they then proceeded to peer through the window into the living room where your children were playing (and you had your breast out BF or just in general because you had mastitis and needed it free) would you be pissed off?

Out2pasture the other option would be to simply leave, since if people are choosing not to answer the door they obviously don't want to be disturbed.

Anyway, no excuse for peering through windows except if you're concerned someone inside may be in some sort of trouble, and you've already tried calling.

nothing worse than knocking on a door, hearing family noises and no one answering. Really? Nothing worse? I can think of 100 worse things right now. Just come back later.

Or bloody call first like a normal person. I hate pop-inerers.

nothing worse than knocking on a door, hearing family noises and no one answering.

You should leave if you've turned up out of the blue. I've had soneone do that while trying to breastfeed and they kept knocking and then got the arse when I finally yelled out that I was breastfeeding and busy. If they'd left I could have got on with trying to encourage my son to latch then disturb him and frustrate us both.

If she'd knocked on the window I would happily have told her how intrusive she was being.

If people want to do impromptu visits that's up to them, they may or may not get appreciated for it. Whatever the result if they knock and no one answers, family noise or not, they should leave.

It's normal to look through the window if no one answers the door. Everyone does it.

High alert - no they don't.

It completely depends on the family set up. My family, and in laws, doors are open / everyone has keys to each others houses or knows where the spares are hidden. I'd be horribly upset if my MIL / SIL didn't let me know their homes, as would they with me. Seems really rude to ignore a relative, and I just couldn't get upset about someone I know looking through my window.

Def not Unreasonable - would piss me right off.

YANBU. Looking in the window is not a "last resort"- wtf? Maybe if you were concerned about someone after not hearing from them for a week or something. Not when you've just decided to pop round.

I have (I think) lost a friendship with someone I've known since school because of this issue. She kept popping in when I had a newborn with hideous reflux and an 18 month old. I was lovely the first 8 or 9 times, but by the 10th time I suggested it wasn't a great time. She took offence

Boobs or not looking through the window is rude af.

If nobody answers the door then guess what, it's not convenient.

He was being very unreasonable and incredibly rude!
Only time I'd say it's ok to look in a window in front door us unanswered is if you are invited/expected and from front door you hear lots of loud talking/music which could be preventing the home owner from hearing your knock. That's it. If you turn up out the blue and door is not answered I don't give a hoot if you think they are in or not you leave. And possibly learn from fact you were ignored and start coming only when invited or atleast when they know about it and expect you!

I think it's unsettling to see a face looking in at the window, doesn't matter who it is, it gives me the creeps a bit!