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To be this worried?

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indubitalnamechange · 21/06/2017 12:54

I've just found out I've got my dream job as a secondary headteacher, starting later this year. I've had fifteen years' teaching experience (the last five of which have been in SLT/deputial), most of it in a small local school where not only did I know every single pupil by name, but could list all the subjects they were studying, who they liked, disliked, hobbies, etc.

By contrast, my new school has five times the number of kids and is widely regarded as the worst in the area. Exam passes and staffing numbers are extremely low, and 'bottom 20%' (oh how I detest that phrase) kids make up over half the student population. There was a (thankfully non-fatal) stabbing on the school grounds a few months ago, three staff members have ended up under investigation in the past two years, you get the picture of what it is like.

I have a meeting with the current SLT at the end of next week and all of a sudden I am bricking it. I've been working up to this my whole career, it's my dream job and I know I was the best candidate for the job. It's probably just cold feet.

Yet I suddenly find myself panicking that I won't be able to deal with the darker aspects of the job, with how it will affect me emotionally and mentally, in two aspects. The first is that so much needs to be done to improve the school and if it doesn't go to plan, I'll be the one getting blamed for it. The second is the difficult things I'm going to have to deal with - things of which there were just about none at my current school.

And it'll be so physically draining too. I'm looking at twelve hour days to start. I'm 45, fit and healthy, but I've seen people age drastically after a couple of years a HT. I'm terrified it'll have that effect on me too.

Am I being unreasonable, or is it just cold feet? Any advice thankfully received Smile

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pudcat · 21/06/2017 12:59

Sorry to be blunt but should you not have thought of all this before you even applied for the position? Be strong, be firm, be fair with pupils and staff.

WorraLiberty · 21/06/2017 13:00

Please don't take this the wrong way, but as a chair of governors, I'm really quite shocked that they would give anyone their first Headship in a school so starkly different?!

But on the plus side, they obviously see you as up to the job so I'm sure this is just a case of cold feet.

Good luck. Plenty of planning and prep and take it one day at a time Thanks

Allthebestnamesareused · 21/06/2017 13:00

You may be better off posting in "The Staffroom" section of Education as you will get advice from other HTs or SLTs there rather than just us regulars!

However, have you met with your Chair of Governors yet and had a discussion with them about what support mechanisms are in place for you and talked about whether there are any appropriate support networks such as other local HTs or course you can attend.

indubitalnamechange · 21/06/2017 13:02

I did think of it all. As I stated clearly in my OP, it is a job I have dreamed of and worked towards for the majority of my working career. I was well aware of the downsides and difficult points to the job before I applied, whilst I was going through the application process, and during interviews.

I suppose what I am trying to get at is that now it's a reality I'm dwelling on the downsides more. I'm a natural pessimist by nature, which may well have something to do with that!

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indubitalnamechange · 21/06/2017 13:06

Thanks Worra! I'm just as shocked as you, truth be told - but I think they must have just seen me as the best candidate despite my differing school experience.

I have a meeting with the Chair of Governors next week so hopefully some information about any support networks can be given then. Think I'll repost in The Staffroom as well, thanks!

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slug · 21/06/2017 13:27

On the other hand, it will be really, really hard for you to make the place any worse.

Saw this o the TES recently I think it has some good tips for getting started

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