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AIBU?

To be cross at neighbours kids being noisy at night?

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Sleepthief84 · 21/06/2017 10:51

First ever post! As the title says AIBU to be annoyed at our neighbours letting their 2 and 4 year olds play in the garden up to 10pm at night shrieking, squealing and (last night) throwing those bloody little bangers that explode when you hit the ground? OH says I'm Oscar the Grouch, but it's grinding my gears - should I say something? Especially given the heat and the fact that DD (age 1) goes to bed at 6pm and we need all the upstairs windows open to cool the house down - her room has been 29 degrees this week! Should say that we live on a quiet street and it's just our two houses together so we always try our best to be considerate to keep noise to a minimum especially in the evenings

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RiverTam · 21/06/2017 12:40

But knickers, were your kids doing it that late at night making that much noise? If not, it's irrelevant.

On hot days we allow DD to stay out quite late as she's a night bird anyway and our shady garden is better than her boiling hot bedroom. But it's just her and she's not shrieking or setting off bangers (wtf???) and she's in well before 10 anyway.

I'd go and have a polite word, though I reckon it'll fall on deaf ears.

ThanksMsMay · 21/06/2017 12:41

How very boring and reasonable of you hissy!

Butterymuffin · 21/06/2017 12:42

Expecting kidsto be quiet all day = unreasonable. Expecting kids to be quiet at 10pm = reasonable. YANBU

PenSylvester · 21/06/2017 12:46

I think in your case yanbu, and wnbu to bring it up to them in a friendly non confrontational way.
My dd is nearly 5 and has been in the garden until 9.00pm some nights, playing with the little girl next door who is 3, and there are young kids 2 doors down who play on their trampoline at that time. I do think it's a case of being considerate to your neighbours, but ours obviously don't mind!

KnickersOnOnesHead · 21/06/2017 12:48

On occasion they were out until 9/10pm, yes but not every single night.

It was warm so why can't kids be running around in their own garden whilst it's still light?

I agree yanbu on the bangers though.

Hissy · 21/06/2017 12:55

ThanksMsMay I know. I didn't even post a diagram...

Greenred · 21/06/2017 13:23

I would be a bit annoyed too op. They're within their rights to let their children do it but that doesn't mean it's not inconsiderate.

Our neighbors have LOADS of BBQs in their tiny outdoor space (not a garden exactly, just a tiled area big enough for a couple of chairs and a small table for 2), right below DCs room. Smoke floods directly into my baby's room every evening which can't be very healthy and the room permenently smells of smoke. They might not realise that's my baby's room, but even if it wasn't, I still think having a BBQ so close to someone else's property isn't very thoughtful. Because of the way the houses are situated, there isn't really anywhere else for the smoke to go. We don't speak to them much and what they're doing is not illegal, so I've not said anything about it.. but, personally, I wouldn't (and don't) have BBQs with such little space, because thick smoke is intrusive and undoubtedly impacts on others when it's very close. Of course I would be entitled to if I wanted to, but I don't, out of respect for others. And I love BBQs, i might add!

Similarly, I would never make a load of noise in my garden on a week night, or let my children. Again, I could if I wanted to, but it's a time of day that most people are winding down and I respect that.

Unlike seenoevil, if I specifically knew my neighbors didn't like noise at certain times I would most definitely try to be quieter at those times, as I would hope they would have the decency to do for me if that were the case.

Sleepthief84 · 21/06/2017 13:27

Oh I have no problem with kid noise in the garden in the day, though they are both in childcare during the week. I quite like to hear them playing they are sweet little girls. And I don't forget that in a couple of years - or probably by next year - it'll be my DD playing outside making (reasonable) noise. Yes it's the shrieking and bangers and that hour that's annoyed me. I will mention it, I wasn't planning on storming round there in a rage more like a knock on the door with a 'please can you keep it down'. We're on fairly friendly terms, not friends as such but for example OH has been painting the fence panels and nipped round he other day to let them know to keep the girls away from the fence incase it went through to the other side and got on their skin/clothes, that kind of thing. Just common courtesy if you ask me! I did ask him to mention to noise at the time but he was too wussy.

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Greenred · 21/06/2017 13:36

Really? I always remind my children that there are neighbours enjoying their gardens and so to play considerately. I wouldn't let them shriek and scream at any time. That doesn't mean that they have to be silent but consideration for others is an important part of living in a community and a vital skill for life

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GahBuggerit · 21/06/2017 14:06

Mention the bangers definitely but why not just get a fan anyway? A bajillion times better than a open window, believe me. I'd have 10 of the bastards in my room if I had enough extension cables.

scottishdiem · 21/06/2017 14:14

One persons shrieking is another persons delightful childs laughter.

10pm is a bit late for either to be honest.

Bangers are totally out of order most of the time.

Sleepthief84 · 21/06/2017 14:23

I do have a fan and a blackout blind in her room. Just pushes the hot air around really! I did splash out and buy a home air con unit on Monday but it's gone back because 1) it sounds like a jet plane taking off and 2) the hose isn't long enough to reach any of our windows from the landing 3) if I put it in our room (only room close enough to DDs for it to reach and have any effect) I still have to put the hose out of our bedroom window - which means having the window open almost right above the noise! Pointless unfortunately

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Sleepthief84 · 21/06/2017 19:53

Well I spoke to him. Just grabbed him quick when he was coming home, so made it not such a big deal that I had to go round there. He was fine actually. I just said would they mind keeping it down on the hot evenings when they can see our windows are open. I knew OH was exaggerating when he said it would be really rude to speak to them! To be fair they've been quiet tonight so let's hope it continues!

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RiverTam · 21/06/2017 21:05

Great result! Fingers crossed.

Greenred · 21/06/2017 21:25

Good news, well done for being assertive!

Lottapianos · 21/06/2017 21:26

Good work OP

user1499215433 · 05/07/2017 01:51

I live next door to 3 little boys. Thank god we're detached but they scream and shout the minute they're outside. So what I do is open my patio doors and play loud music. When they shut up I turn it off. It seems to be working.

Portishead200 · 05/07/2017 02:00

Call the council immediately and complain. I have no patience with selfish noisy neighbors now after the ones I've had. Music blasting all day and night, Tumblr dryer over my bedroom all night, drug dealing.
Nip it in the bud before it gets worse

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