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DD falls badly on walk to school, not allowed to go into school with her

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west3 · 21/03/2007 10:35

Sorry, just feel really angry about this. DD (6yrs) fell badly on way to school this morning. Ended up with cuts and grazes to her hands, both knees, shins and bruised chin. Poor little thing was very upset and worried that she had broken her glasses. As we were closer to the school than anywhere else we continued down the road, but on ariving at the gate teacher/playground asst on duty saw DD in floods of tears with blood running down legs and said for her to go to the first aid room. I asked if I should/could go with her and was told "NO" and DD was told to say "Bye to Mum, you'll see her at home time" and she was lead away by an older child. I can understand security and all that but surely there can be common sense exceptions.

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fryalot · 21/03/2007 10:37

I totally agree with you. She will probably be fine, patched up by a teacher and will enjoy her day. You however, will spend the entire day worrying about her.

Sometimes common sense is just too difficult for people, isn't it!

ComeOVeneer · 21/03/2007 10:37

I would be angry too. Could you phone the school and check how she is now?

Flamesparrow · 21/03/2007 10:38

Oh that sounds harsh

hoolagirl · 21/03/2007 10:39

What a bitch.
I would phone and complain!

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west3 · 21/03/2007 10:46

I know she will be fine, maybe a little tlc when she comes home won't go a miss. Just think it was very harsh considering the state she was in.

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Mumpbump · 21/03/2007 10:47

Very insensitive way to handle the situation on the part of the teacher...

powder28 · 21/03/2007 10:48

I remember falling over on my face on a gravel path on my way to playschool when i was little. I was crying but i still had to go. Dont think my mum felt guilty though.

geekgrrl · 21/03/2007 10:48

oh, how harsh poor little thing.

Whyever aren't you allowed in? Our school has an 'open door' policy for parents, they're welcome to come in whenever they like.

ScummyMummy · 21/03/2007 10:48

That's crap. There's no history of her being unwilling to separate from you or anything is there? Even if there is it's still crap. Rigid and crap. Poor you and poor dd.

RustyBear · 21/03/2007 10:55

I bet the people in the first aid room would have preferred you to go in. Our medical room is staffed by the office staff who are very busy at the start of the day - normally if a child is hurt on the way to school they'd come in with their mum & we'd probably shove the first aid box at the mum & let her get on with it (unless she really needed help or more expert first aid, of course)

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west3 · 21/03/2007 11:08

DD has always gone into school no problem, more often than not she even forgets to say goodbye as she is too busy getting in the gate and finding her friends. Since Dunblane the security at schools round us has been increased. Basically, if a parent/carer wants to go into the school they have to report to the school office, sign in, office staff then phone ahead to classroom or wherever you are going. The office is in a separate admin building beside the school gate, for things like forgotten packed lunches/pe kit you hand it into the office and they pass it onto the appropriate person. Any event held during school time you attend the procedure relaxes slightly but you still have to sign in

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west3 · 21/03/2007 11:11

To be honest I would have preferred to have had a first aid box given to me and sorted her out myself, the office staff are as you can imagine are rushed off their feet at 8.45.

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Hillary · 21/03/2007 11:16

What right do they have not to let you! I would have pushed past the teacher, how dare she tell you no. They think they have every right, she has no right.

Greensleeves · 21/03/2007 11:17

How DARE they refuse you entry to the school? I would be fuming.

TrinityRhino · 21/03/2007 11:20

I would have been very angry at this

harpsichordcarrier · 21/03/2007 11:20

argh, how horrible for you and dd. I would be cross as all that too.
I would complain in the politest possible terms of course

Hillary · 21/03/2007 11:21

I would bring her home for lunch today, I'd be worried my dd would be thinking I didn't care.

SSShakeTheChi · 21/03/2007 11:25
Angry
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west3 · 21/03/2007 11:50

Unfortunately the school don't do home lunches, it is either school meal or packed lunch, or I would be bringing her back here for a sandwich. In middle of cooking her fave tea (macaroni cheese followed by cake & custard) so she feels special tonight. Feeling a bit calmer but will certainly mention something to staff at home time.

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thelittleElf · 21/03/2007 11:52

Completely out of order
xx

Polgara2 · 21/03/2007 12:05

I would have been appalled at being refused and I would have just gone in with her anyway tbh. My dd also 6 would have been distraught and it would have been much easier all round for you to sort her out surely - less hassle for them at that time has to be a plus?

LowFatMilkshake · 21/03/2007 12:06

Poor DD and you worrying about her. I agree a litle TLC and a treat when she gets home and maybe a nicely written note to the head teacher to explain your concerns

mumto3girls · 21/03/2007 12:13

Noone would have persuaded me that I couldn't go in with her....I would have insisted.

Hope she's not too sore...

mysonsmummy · 21/03/2007 12:14

i would have said ''i am taking dd to the first aid room to get her sorted. cheeky woman bet shes not a mummy!

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west3 · 21/03/2007 12:20

I think her distress was majority shock at falling and the amount of sore bits she had. She is really quite a tough cookie and usually will just get up, compose herself/stop crying and carry on. Not this time, which makes me think she'll need some pampering tonight

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