To think she's an insensitive cow?!

[Ameliajc]

I have this work colleague, due to the nature of our job we have to work together, I'm nice to everyone no matter how they act as I just think it's easier to get on with job in work especially due to the amount of time I spent with them.

There's a group of 5 of us, who regularly go out for dinner to celebrate birthdays etc (This work colleague has somehow moved into this group). Recently DD was at a sleep over with her cousins and her uncle a former A&E doctor noticed corcerning symptoms after a while things didn't improve so they rushed DD in A&E at about 4am obviously I rang into work and explain that I wouldn't be able to go in.

I get several texts including one from said colleague and it's worded like "what has happened to you?" I didn't bother replying to anyone until much later that day, I replied to other colleagues about how DD had ended up in hospital (With Uti that had developed to a kidney infection/blood poisoning) but because she regularly spreads gossips I just texted her "my daughter is not well".

She replies "Hope you're still coming to Lisa's birthday dinner" and then I get a text from another colleague saying she said "I'd make up anything for a day off" and she saw DD at a park when she was dropping her children off when I have 2 daughters!! (And one is 3 and was at the park with her granny, but why is she going out her her way to make me look like a liar) I'm rarely not in work and a couple of weeks ago, she took off 4 days for having a sore toe!!!!!!!!

Bored and still in the hospital I was scrolling through Facebook and she's posted "so thankful my girls are healthy and happy that's all A mother can ask for in life" with a photo of her kids doing superman poses!!!! This was literally posted after I told her DD was unwell.

To make things even worst I lost my dad to cancer on Christmas Day last year and for Father's Day she's posted this whole essay about how she loves her dad and the kids love their grand dad and then she's tagged me in the bottom " my heart goes out to my friend xxxxx who unfornately lost her dad this year xxxxx" excuse me but my dad died last year 2016 and why would you do that? Only to make herself loook better I suppose!!!

Is she unaware at how horrible and insensitive she can be sometimes?

And yet, you're keeping her as a Facebook friend, rather than deleting her?

I can't help feeling an air of drama about everyone in your office tbh.

Yes, she sounds like a nightmare but I don't understand why people entertain her outside of working hours, least of all you.

I can't help feeling an air of drama about everyone in your office tbh.

Yeah, this. I'd ask people to stop messaging you with gossip.

WorraLiberty She reports people for bullying her as a hobby, if I unfriended her it would give her something to report me for. She honestly came in crying one day asking if people had a problem with her like something a 10 year old might do

Apart from her we all get along in the office she's been in our department for 1 year but been working for the organisation and the previous one for 20 years!!!!!!!!! Apart from the stuff originally mentioned, She's never done anything to me personally before that I could get upset about! She now organises these birthday dinners etc and would be offended if you didn't want/couldn't to go and would make the biggest fuss about it!!!!

Nobody wants a bad atmosphere at work most of the time we just laugh about the things she does but when it's so personal about my dad and DD can't help but be outraged and upset!

Sounds like a colleague I used to have. Accused others of lying and being bad at their jobs while doing everything she complained about herself. Everyone at work knew what she was like, and we all just dealt with it by passive-aggressively agreeing that it was annoying when people lied and deliberately avoided working.

I would have made a point of saying to her "so good granny could take my other daughter to the park while I went to the hospital so I could focus on my ill daughter"

You can not report a colleague for taking you off their FB friend list.

Well you can try

MuffinMaiden Yep that's pretty much her thinks she's perfect and everyone else is the problem. She knows DD2 is looked after by her granny she's asked me who looks after her when she's out of nursery I'm not sure if she claimed she'd seen DD1 or both DDs but she was trying to make me look like I was making this it all up! Surely if I was taking a day off for no reason I'd take my DDs to the park myself!

Worraliberty she'd only make a big fuss out of it being and pretend she didn't know she'd done wrong and make me look horrible! I don't mind friends with her as long as her posts are hidden from my feed and I can't be tagged in anything!