DFIL - comments about DD

[Aweeweecupoftea]

So my DD started crying when I tried to hand her to my DFIL. He said to her, "you're just a little greeting faced bitch aren't you?" (We're Scottish by the way). He said it as if it was a term of endeerment

Aibu to not want him to say that again?

He's always saying things I deem strange and innapropriate! What should I say to him in these situations?

What do you say ? You tell him straight that he is not to refer to your daughter like that ever again.

What on earth is the matter with him?

Sort of relieved to hear I'm not just being a touchy, overly defensive mum. His comments have been grating on me for a long time.

I hate confrontation but I think even I'd have to say "please don't call her that!"
Sometimes people do have a forthright way of talking. Doesn't make it right though.

I'm not even sure what a "greeting faced bitch" is supposed to be, but I'd be pissed he called her a bitch in any case.

I'm not even sure what a "greeting faced bitch" me either, but it doesn't sound nice anyway lol

Crikey that's a bit much.

Greeting means crying.

But yes, calling her a bitch is horrible.

greeting = crying

Someone 'greeting faced' is someone who cries all the time.

Greeting means crying.

How odd

Still, my answer remains the same.

What's odd about it?

You don't call your granddaughter a bitch! Poor little thing, hopefully she is too young to understand. Maybe in his life he thought it was OK to use this word to refer to family members/kids. What does your DP say? Was he always like this?

I think you and your DP need to have a conversation with him and make him understand clearly how inappropriate it is. And that he won't be seeing her again until he has changed his ways.

It makes no sense.

whattodo greeting is the Scottish word for crying. Nothing to do with the English word 'greet' as in 'say hello'.

Yeah, I figured that.

How does it make no sense?

Other languages have different words for things is a confusing concept, I suppose.

My grandad was Irish and used to call me a little whore (pronounced with two syllables - hoo-err). Christ that sounds terrible but it was actually fine, he died when I was young but I have nothing but fond memories of him (yes the hoo-err is a fond memory) and he absolutely spoiled me rotten.

OTOH I think I would certainly have had something to say about it if I were my mum.

Is bairn odd and lacking sense as well, WhatToDoAboutThis2017, or is that word sufficiently familiar to you?

Christ.

I'm trilingual; I have no issue with languages.

This isn't to do with a language. It's a slang word, that's all.

It's not slang.

Scots is a language. Don't denigrate it by calling it slang.

Scots is a language, yes.

The individual word "greeting" and the way it's being used here is slang.

www.scotsman.com/heritage/people-places/scottish-word-of-the-week-greeting-1-3536474

It's slang according to this.

I totally disagree that it is slang.

And it is absolutely your right to do so.