Long but do not want to drip feed.
DD had a life limiting condition and spent 20 months in hospital at once and now is in and out.
Her dad left at 2 weeks old and moved to jersey.
We are in london.
Obviously this means he does not see her a lot.
The first 18 months was awful, he verbally abused me a lot refused to pay any money whilst I was sat on my arse scrounging of the goverment ( was sat at our DD's bedside )
Then got in to drugs ( was never on them with me and I have o tolerance to them )
He ended up being sectioned and charged to for importing drugs.
Anyway after he got treatment he seemed to have improved and so did his behaviour however
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DD went for open heart surgery and he did not ring for 3 weeks to see if she was okay.
DD caught a life threatning infection and ended up in ICU he did not come or answer my messages for over a week - did however manage to travel to another european country to see a ill relative who he had no contact with for 8 years.
He does see her every 4-6 months and I accomadate this he stays for 3 days and i stay at my sisters and he stays at mine.
He does not however in between this time ring very often.
In january we made a arragement about money 50-75 pound a month ( works full time, lives rent free at mums )
This has not always veen paid on time
This month it was due a week ago , I rang him no answer and he never responded.
Then DD was admitted poorly in to hospital still could not get hold of him.
He eventually rang and made usual excuses.
Said money would be in the next day at 3pm.
I explained I had no money and was in hospital with her.
3pm came and left with no sign of money.
Rang him again no answer.
Now its the day after and still 0 contact.
AIBU to just cut ties now.
I tried ringing him on fathers day so she could speak to him...nothing.
Now he is not even replying to texts about how she is.
When he is here ....he is father of the year.