for being annoyed at friend-and-neighbour who refuses to hold a set of keys for me?

[mm22bys]

Hi,

I asked a friend who lives across the road from me to hold a set of keys in case we lose all our keys and get locked out.

She refused on the grounds that she values our friendship to risky losing it if something happened because she had a set.

I am really annoyed at her. I always thought friends were supposed to help each other out, and to me it shows how "fragile" she thinks our friendship is...

Am I being unreasonable?

You are not being unreasonable.

pmsl IGW

But I don't even have to identify what the keys are for! It's not like I'm going to put them on a keyring that says "Joe Blogg - My-number My-street My-postcode".

We have a draw full of keys, and they are all not labelled...

Anyway, glad not everyone thinks I'm not being unreasonable...

Cappuccino that story is a cack....I did have a dream about said-friend (unmarried and very very straight down the line) being pregnant, maybe I'm trying to tell myself something!

I have come up with a solution that DH agrees with...thx for your responses... def food for thought!

yes u are unreasonable, holding keys are a big responsibility,,, conversely i wouldnt trust most people , except mum with ours

haven't read thread but sorry i think you are being unreasonable - you have the right to ask, she has the right to say no

it's a responsibility that she doesn't want - don't blame her

i wouldnt like to hold a set of keys what if something goes missing? your great grandmothers diamond ring gets lost int he washing machine - all of a sudden custy is being charged with robbery - so no. dont lose your keys your house safety is your reponsability. not mine.

in answer to the OP therefore - yes you are

I have 8 sets of keys for neighbours and friends

8

I just throw them in a drawer and rummage when they're needed

8

actually make that 9

twiglett has been and had a count! lol

canunderstand your pov tho custy!

My mum once agreed to have a spare set of her neighbours' house keys. She then found herself having to regularly go in their house at ungodly hours in her PJs to switch off their burglar alarm (that had some bizarre intermittant fault), everytime they were away (which became quite often). She would be very reluctant to do the same again.

Twiglett can I give you mine too please?

I'd give them to mum / other family member if that was an option. Not all of us have that luxury.

Lots of things are our responsibilty, but we don't do everything for ourselves. Also heard of saying you scratch my back I'll scratch yours?

Agree though it is her right to say no, I was just surprised she did especially when I don't think she was entirely up front with her reasoning.

I don't need her anyway, we have come up with an alternative!

My mother and father in law and dh uncle gave dh grandparents spare sets of keys to their houses.

When grandparents were away on holiday uncle gets a call from the police because their burgular alarm was going off, he met the police there and was checking the house was all ok, nicely displayed on the key rack were the keys to his house with a label with his name and address on

Is not unreasonable for you to ask, its not unreasonable for her to decline. I've held keys for a neighbour before and had to deal with the fallout when their house flooded and I mean FLOODED and I couldn't reach them. I'd be hesitant in future.

I think OP probably isn't iinterested any more since there will be people who left school last year that were born about the time she started this thread?

Get a key safe. I've always had one with both a front and rear door key in it. It's been invaluable a few times for me.

I didn't realise it's a zombie thread..bah!

Maybe OP will update after 16 years, did you sort your key dilemma OP, and did your friendship survive?

And @Thcc how did you even find this thread? 🤷‍♀️