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AIBU unreasonable to expect school to make sure DS has his hat on?

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funnyfoursome · 19/06/2017 17:42

So DS is only 4, he is in Reception class of 30. Being a primary school teacher myself pre kids I totally get how hard the job is. However school sent an email reminding us to send children in with hat, sunglasses, water bottle and sunscreen applied.
But DS ended up at lunchtime out in the playground without his hat or sunglasses on (he says). This happened last Monday too. The reason being that they go up to the lunch hall then are sent straight out to the big playground. I raised it with the TA last week - she is more on the case then the NQT teacher tbh. Today it was 30 degrees plus in the SE and I just think the children need help and reminding to take their hats to loucnh or be allowed into the Reception classrooms to get their hats? So what do I do now?

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harderandharder2breathe · 19/06/2017 17:46


They're only 4 and 5, the teacher or TA should remind them to take their hats with them to lunch

This sort of weather is too rare for it to become habit especially with such little children.


funnyfoursome · 19/06/2017 17:49

Thanks that's what I think too he's pretty pale and there's very little shade

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JamAndBread · 19/06/2017 17:50


YABU if you're raising it with the TA and not the teacher and still expect the teacher to do something about it though. NQT or not, raise it with the teacher instead tomorrow.

Disclaimer: I am also a teacher.


Witchend · 19/06/2017 17:54

It probably won't be the teacher or TA. It'll be lunchtime supervisors.


funnyfoursome · 19/06/2017 18:04

The teacher is on PPA tomorrow and is unlikely to be anywhere around. Over the year I have grown to have more confidence in the experienced TA than the teacher re practical matters, but I take your point

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PuckeredAhole · 19/06/2017 18:08

YANBU. They are the kids' primary carers and it's their responsibility to make sure the children have hats on. They'd do it for their own.

2 people in my family have melanoma. It's no joke. We need to instill sun sense from an early age but they are still too little to understand.


funnyfoursome · 19/06/2017 18:09

Witchend I see where you're coming from but I still think the teacher is responsible overall plus she needs to make sure at the beginning of lunchtime the children all have their hats?

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HopeClearwater · 19/06/2017 18:17

Hats yes, sunglasses no


MissEliza · 19/06/2017 22:20

Definitely not too much to ask. At our school, our head won't let any child in the playground without a cap on in this kind of weather.


SenoritaViva · 19/06/2017 22:22

As a teacher no yanbu although I wouldn't worry about the glasses, just hat.


glamourousgranny42 · 19/06/2017 22:25

Not the teachers responsibility at lunchtime. They may not even be on the premises.
However they should perhaps be reminded when they are let out for lunch. Eg don't forget your hat and sunglasses etc. Even then some children will chose not to wear them or won't have them. Should a TA / lunch supervisor spend all lunchtime purely checking with each child what they have / haven't got with them?


MyPatronusIsAUnicorn · 19/06/2017 22:28

YANBU. At our school I don't think they are even reminding them to put sun cream on. I have put some on fair DD before school but it's pointless as she needs it anyway before lunch as she'll burn.


Lamaitresse · 19/06/2017 22:31

I'm a kindergarten assistant & there is no way I would take our class out at the moment without their water bottles & sunhats. Having said that though I am constantly shocked at how many parents don't send hats in - in a class of 29 kids only 5 had them today 😱


MaisyPops · 19/06/2017 22:36

Reasonable to ask teacher to remind children to take hats etc with them. (Teacher can relay to TA as appropriate because TAs work under the direction of a qualified teacher).

Not reasonable to expect the teacher to enforce hats when they are not being employed as duty staff (some TAs are and there are lunch staff, unless teachers opt for optional lunch duty).

Plus, your attitude towards the teacher sounds a little off to me as if 'new teacher therefore I'll raise it with the TA'. Great TAs are worth their weight in gold, but it's abundantly clear that you seem to have a desire to bypass the teacher because you feel the ta is more up to it. They are totally different jobs (I've done both!). As a teacher I would feel a bit Hmm about a parent acting like that.


CorbynsBumFlannel · 19/06/2017 22:46

I don't send a hat in. My kids get slathered in factor 50 suncream on everywhere exposed including their faces on hot days. They've never caught the sun.


MrsBosh · 20/06/2017 15:42

I know he's still little but I'd encourage your son to start taking some responsibility too e.g. practise going up to a lunchtime supervisor and saying 'I'd like to get my hat and sunglasses because I don't want to get too hot'. I do get where you're coming from but the staff will be supervising hundreds of children. Reception is old enough to start to do this.

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