Hi there
I'd really appreciate your thoughts.
My mum lost her husband of 30 years just over a year ago. She has always been a wildcat at changing her mind on a whim but now I think it's getting out of control.
My stepfather was her rock and with him she was more consistent than I had ever known her during my childhood. She had a crap upbringing with her own mum moving her about all over the country, she went to 14 different schools and only ever knew moving when things went a bit wrong - her parents were in service so it could have been the done thing - I don't know.
The minute my stepfather died, she had sold the house, caused irrepairable ructions to his children and extended family by asking for more money than half the house (they hadn't organised the will AT ALL well) and that of course, blew up in all our faces, mum with not enough money to buy a house where she wanted, etc. After one hell of year, my sister and I had helped her get a small mortgage, buy a perfectly lovely house for her needs and see her settle a little, sad but settled.
About 3 months ago she met a widower and so began a whirlwind relationship which was great. Holidays, company, etc. It began to transpire that he was incredibly needy (he lost his wife less than a year ago) and although she loved being with him, she was torn between enjoying being with him and her feeling like she was not seeing us enough - she is a bit of a tiger mum. She finished it, seemingly on a whim having agreed to move in with him. They made it up, have just been up to us for the weekend which was lovely and this morning, she has just finished it again with him feeling that he just wants too much from her than she can give just now -
Although my sister and I are all grown up, we are knackered and quite frankly fed up with the long phone calls of decision making that seem to have no effect on the outcome.
She refuses to have any counselling.
AIBU?
Thanks