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AIBU?

6yo asking to have her ears pierced...

241 replies

Whatsername17 · 19/06/2017 14:53

Wibu to let her? I'm thinking at the beginning of the holiday so they have time to heal ready for school. I didn't anticipate her asking this of me so young.

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waitforitfdear · 19/06/2017 15:16

See op it's really really your call and your dds call no one else's business. Grin

missiondecision · 19/06/2017 15:17

If she has asked, you (and dh I assume) don't mind, then do it.
It's a good time of year.
Mn is a weird place to ask this question veciase 98% will be aghast.
It's not a biggie in the grand scheme.

waitforitfdear · 19/06/2017 15:18

2 to 3 weeks of non swimming

Who told you that it's 24 hours

Clalpolly · 19/06/2017 15:19

Saw a clearly not 18 months old child having it done in Claire's this weekend. Poor thing bawled its head off.

kaytee87 · 19/06/2017 15:20

I think 6 is a bit young. They have to be able to remove them and put them back in themselves and take care of cleaning them. I don't think a 6 yo could tbh.

I was 8 (almost 9) when I had mine pierced after nagging for them since I started school and saw other girls with theirs done Smile
I was pretty responsible at that age and took care of them well.

KanyesLunchbox · 19/06/2017 15:21

For all those saying to get them done at a proper piercing place, what is the age limit?

SpiritedLondon · 19/06/2017 15:21

I don't know why it's a weird place to ask. I personally don't like it, particularly on babies. It's nothing to do with maintenance issues I just don't like it. I only occasionally see children at my DDs school with it so it's not that big a trend here ( so I hope I won't be pestered until DD is double figures). But you should do what you think is appropriate.

Vinorosso74 · 19/06/2017 15:22

DD is 7 and she asked a few times over a week a couple of months ago. I felt she was too young so left it and she hasn't mentioned it again. Am happy for her to have them done when she is older and can take care of them herself maybe 10/11.

EatTheChocolateTeapot · 19/06/2017 15:23

YANBU, I have had mine since a baby, 'tis the way in Spain. I don't wear earrings except for special occasions as I'm not really into jewellery but I do like to have the option. I also still have the gorgeous baby/children earrings of yellow gold and white pearl that my grandmother had bought me. Oh, I might get the DCs ears pierced if they want it this Summer.

DisappearingFish · 19/06/2017 15:24

DD, after much pestering, got hers done at 8.5. She's only just about managed to look after them. Any younger and I think she would have struggled.

Most of her friends who got them done younger ended up with infections or letting them close over.

We went to a really good jewellers to a guy who had been piercing ears for 18 years. He was lovely and his whole approach was very reassuring.

paxillin · 19/06/2017 15:24

I wouldn't entertain the idea before teenage.

sailawaywithme · 19/06/2017 15:24

I wouldn't. Not just for the upkeep but to be honest, I hate to see little girls with their ears pierced.

Morphene · 19/06/2017 15:25

Its a great fat 'No' from me. No way I would let my DD pierce her ears or make any other permanent modification to her body at this age.

There is time enough in the future for mutilating herself to fit into societal ideas of beauty, but I will be holding it off for as long as humanly possible.

SheSaidHeSaid · 19/06/2017 15:26

I'm a trained Studex piercer.

I definitely wouldn't want to pierce the ears of anyone younger than that as the aftercare NEEDS to be followed and I think that the person whose ears they are should take on that responsibility. The child also needs to be responsible enough to look after them for much longer than just the 6 weeks they take to heal and I'm not sure a 6 year old is capable of that sometimes.

Also, your ears never stop growing, so the holes being central now might not be as central as the child grows up in to an adult.

If it were me, I'd say no to my child.

EatTheChocolateTeapot · 19/06/2017 15:31

When I say the DCs, I mean both DD and DS, boys can wear earrings too! DS 3.5 has already asked to have long hair and likes to wear a skateboard shirt so it might go well with his style.

KingJoffreysRestingCuntface · 19/06/2017 15:31

Ooo, SheSaid , is that why you see people with eating holes pretty much at the tip of the lobe? Like the eating is hanging on for dear life.

I look after older people who basically have slits in their ears where the holes have stretched or been dragged by weight of ratings. Do you ever recommend a weight limit for what you can hang from your ears?

KoolKoala07 · 19/06/2017 15:33

I pestered and pestered my mum when I was 3, she let me have them done and I loved them. When she was a teenager she had to wait until she was 14. I pierce ears at work and I refuse to do under 5s because it's often the mothers/fathers etc who want the child to have them pierced rather than the child themselves.

Rach5l · 19/06/2017 15:38

Its fine, no big deal idk why people get their knickers in such a twist about it. Dd had hers done beginning of Christmas holidays when she was 6. No problems

OliviaStabler · 19/06/2017 15:40

Too young at 16. 16 yes, 6 no.

Witchend · 19/06/2017 15:40

I did with my dd's at this age and it actually worked well. They were young enough to be happy for me to check they weren't infected and help with cleaning. They learnt fairly quickly how to deal with them themselves-even dd2 who only has one hand was fine on her own getting them in and out after a couple of weeks.

A number whose parents made them wait until they were older had issues because when they started getting infected they didn't ask for help because they were afraid they'd be told to take them out. By the time the parents noticed it was a cut them off at A&E level.

BeepBeepMOVE · 19/06/2017 15:42

No it's really tacky looking

Ericaequites · 19/06/2017 15:43

It's inappropriate until eleven or twelve. By then, she can care for them herself.

requestingsunshine · 19/06/2017 15:44

No way, its far too young.

takeaweeseat · 19/06/2017 15:45

I would let her. I hate seeing it on babies but 6 is no big deal.

CarrotFingers · 19/06/2017 16:00

I think 6 is little bit young. I nagged from the age of about 6 though, and I nearly fainted in shock on my 12th birthday when my mum took me to H Samuel to have them done.

I then fainted for real while my mum was paying. I've never been very good round needles.

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