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To want to know when it's time to throw in the towel

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delilah245 · 19/06/2017 13:33

I've been in a rocky marriage for years. I've felt unappreciated and unsupported throughout and have lost romantic feelings for DH. We have stayed together as we have DCs, but our relationship is more a partnership, although we can't seem to agree on much as the respect has gone long ago. I've tried insisting we do date nights and things like that to bring some life back into our relationship, but he doesn't feel the importance and basically has the idea that life is just supposed to be this way after having kids. I'm still young and yearn deeply to go out and have fun and live life still... I usually do this with friends, focus on hobbies, and try and find happiness through them- but feel my marriage is just dead. :( I've tried having these serious talks with him many times about my unhappinesss because of the lack of affection and support from him, but nothing changes.

I'm battling with this and getting to the point that I just want to give up. When is enough enough? Am I being unreasonable for considering this?

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WhooooAmI24601 · 19/06/2017 13:42

I don't think theres a set time, just that you'll know when you've hit your limit. You sound very much as though you've hit yours.

Does he know how close you are to giving up on your marriage entirely? Would that change his outlook at all if he did know?


Sanch1 · 19/06/2017 14:46

You know when you know. I could have written your post. Same issues. I gave up 5 weeks ago. It's hard now but it'll be better for all of us, including the children in the long term.

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