To ask for your opinion (DD bedtime)

[TenForward82]

I need impartial opinions as I don't know which way is up anymore.

Last night, 7.30pm, DD's bedtime. She's 16 months. 27 degrees in her bedroom. For additional info DD has diarrhoea all day and has not eaten / drunk much.

Parent A puts her bed in just a nappy and points a small fan at her. Parent A is expecting her to wake up hungry / ill in the night so plans to turn fan off then when the room is cooler.

DD wakes crying at 1am (as she often does). Parent B goes to her, changes nappy, etc. Parent A comes in to DD's bedroom. Parent B says "DD was cold, the fan was pointing at her. That's not good." Both parents now cross at each other.

So to my question: who was BU? Parent A for pointing the fan directly at DD, or Parent B for implying it was dangerous to leave fan pointing at DD?

Both A and B are tired with a sick baby and should cut each other some slack.

I'm with parent A, I would always rather my children were too hot than too cold. I remember someone telling me when I first had my eldest "too cold they cry, too hot they die". It really stuck with me and even though I think that advice was aimed for babies I still stick to it now.

Being too cold won't hurt your DD but being too hot on top of diarrhoea and so potentially dehydrated could.

It's not dangerous for the baby to be too cold (although it may wake her) but as a previous poster said, you need to cut each other some slack. It's not a huge deal either way.

In isolation it's not a problem but "constant perceived criticism" is an ongoing issue in the relationship. This is just one example.

Have a duty rota. Parent A does one night, B the next. This way both A and B get a good night's sleep every other day and no handover is needed with an argument at 1am.

Both parents need to give each other a break

But I agree it's better for the child to be too cold than too hot. It's not like she could be cold enough for it to be harmful in a warm room in the UK in June, but she could get hot enough for it to be harmful.

The child won't get dangerously cold in this weather. It's fine to leave fan on.