Niece 'stealing' my son's name!

[FreddyJohn]

I see similar situations on here a could of times lately and figured I'd post as there doesn't seem to be any that's exact to this and it often borderlines on U or not on these threads so just wondering.

My son is Frederick Jonathan. He goes by Freddie and is 5.

My niece is naming her little boy (due in 3 days) Freddy John.

A lot of our family is still very close and see each other once a month. AIBU to think this is a bit copy cat? No family names either.

I have 2 cousins called Michael aged 3 months apart, my mum's bother and sister obviously both decided they like that name. My son has exactly the same name as his stepbrother, which is also the same as mine shortened (e.g. Daniel/ Danielle).
There's some confusion occasionally but everyone is just used to it and no harm has come from either situation. You & your niece both got to give your children the preferred name. I suggest you chill about it, in a few months or years I doubt you will care.

Call him Johnfred John. A bit like Manfred Mann.

Freddo
Freddington Minor
Freddy 2 - Niece's Revenge
Fredlet Wee Fredlet
Sequel
The Also Fred

lots of options.

SHIT!! She actually STOLE your son's name? Bloody Hell. What are you going to call your son now?

It's a name, a pretty common one too, lots of people will use it. Your son will have to share. You do not have ownership of this name. Get over it, it's a total non-problem which will not affect you in any way.

It is a bit copycat. YANBU.

You got the name Freddie first, so I wouldnt mind so much. Usually people dont say (or are even aware of) people's middle names.

So the main thing is there will be 2 Freddie/Freddys.

I suppose it is flattery that she likes the name. They are different generations. People do have the same names in families

Freddy might get "little freddy" or "freddy junior" but if they are happy with that I dont think there is much you can do/say. I wouldnt do what your neice has done but I'd be ok with my nephew using my children's names. They arent too uncommon.

YABU - but that is pretty weird so I understand you being perplexed.

How does someone steal a name? You realise the royal family do this all the time, Richard and Henry being the perfect examples.
I think get over yourself. Life is to short, if I like a name I will use it. I don't care who else has it.

YANBU I would be quite cross.

@FizzyGreenWater
Making silly names up to call the child is just punishing the the child.

Making silly names up is punishing the child quite grow up.

Op I would see it as a sign she likes your ds as annoying kids do put you off names.

Still a tad strange but roll with it you havnt much choice

Reboot: exactly. I said on previous thread that normally you hear 'no-one owns a name' but it was different on the Madison one -seemingly because of ASD issues...

I'm another who agrees people are free to use the same name, but think it weird and would hate it myself.

I'd suspect she doesn't know your ds' middle name. I only know one of my cousin's middle names-and that's because she went by it for a while.

I'd be more annoyed that she's stolen your mumsnet user ID

Don't understand how people cannot think this is weird… Out of every name in the world, she only liked those two, and in that exact order? Not even John Freddy?

Yeah I think that's weird.

We we're considering a name for ds3 that is a friends sons name. Friends we see about 3 times a year due to living at opposite ends of the country - and he would have had a different middle name.

We still thought it was too weird so chose something else.

Call the police

I've only known of two baby boys born in the last year. Both have been called Freddie. It's very trendy round these parts.

My brother, my close cousin and 2 of my uncles share the same name - it's really no big deal and I don't think anything of it.

Obviously no one owns a name, she can call her baby what she likes.

However it shows an outstanding lack of imagination. You should be flattered that out of all the thousands and thousands of names the only one she can name her baby is the one you used. You clearly have good taste and she clearly is bonkers.

Smile and wave, smile and wave

I spent a lot of time and effort on choosing my children's names. I would be absolutely livid if a close family member copied them.

It's weird.

No, you don't own a name.

But equally taking a full name from a relative and using it for your own child is weird.

I know a couple who have a niece called Clare, when their daughter arrived years later they named her Claire! I don't believe it caused any major problems and they all lived happily ever after

No one owns any name. There are some families where all male children are called eg Randolph or Winston and there are loads of cousins with the same names. Everyone copes.

Yeah, but they're generally quite common, boring names. So you have 12 Davids or Clares in a family, so what? But what if you name your child Miss Billy-Bluebell or something like that and your relative names her DC exactly the same thing? Is that different?

I think she is being unreasonable but when I posted something similar I was flamed. Sil chose both of my ds middle names (as a first name and a middle name) and my daughters middle name. I also added she got married two years after me and had same colours, bought an identical house two years after me and an identical car a few months later. Anything I do gets replicated s few months later but in mumsnet this was deemed fine and not at all annoying

IT is yes but my eldest son has a name which his uncle (dads brother) then chose for one of his sons! Not a close family and they've never met and we found out it was because it meant something to them as aunties parent was called it!