Regifted back something I gave a relative.....twice

[Notanothernamechangeaddict]

So I've name changed as this is really outing,
Last Christmas I received a toiletries set that I had given to a relative at least 2 years previous, not a problem I quite liked it so used it, didn't say anything.
It was my birthday earlier this week, received another similar gift from the same relative, it was the gift I gave them at Christmas!
We've had an odd relationship not always getting along but ok at the moment, are they doing this on purpose or do they just have a shit memory?
I don't want to say anything but aibu to think something weird is going on?

[Notanothernamechangeaddict]

Ah yes, the charity goat, definitely a possibility for this Christmas

[LexieLulu]

Could you mention it to a relative that you know would tell her her error? X

[NotSuchASmugMarriedNow1]

You know what its at times like these that I'm glad I'm blunt and direct. I would honestly have opened that gift up and said "that's the one I gave you"

[Notanothernamechangeaddict]

because we've had a difficult past I wouldn't want to involve anyone else, they wouldn't want to get involved

[feelingsickaboutit]

Toiletries and perfumes are naff gifts unless you know they definitely use this particular brand. It's money wasted otherwise. Next time get them Amazon voucher or if you're feeling extra generous twin her toilet at www.toilettwinning.org or sponsor a child or just donate some money to charity in her name and put a receipt in a card. At least some good will come out of it.

[chitofftheshovel]

My mum once regifted a garden centre voucher to the sister who had given it to her in the first place. Only it was out of date by then. Vouchers are definitely not the way ahead!
Maybe a tenner in a card? Or agree on no presents?

[Notanothernamechangeaddict]

I think I'll stick to chocolates and wine, I know she likes those,
I'm just not sure if it's weird/passive aggressive or a shit memory
We don't have a big family, in fact it's a tiny family so when she's deciding what to regift to me, surely she must think "who gave this to me?"

[NotSuchASmugMarriedNow1]

How old is she?

[Notanothernamechangeaddict]

Middle Aged

[Titterofwit]

I would go with writing on the actual box -stick a label down firmly if the box is not suitable for writing on.
A friend regifted a box of chocolates to someone she had just met on Christmas and needed a gift in a panic. The new friend was very puzzled to read the gift message firmly written on the back of the box.

Or just give something the person has said they like/need/ were looking for. I prefer wish lists for those I give actual gifts to and just give money to everyone else.

[fibrecruncher]

Of course you could be the bigger person and try and get them something you're sure they'll like, or ask them if there's anything they need/want or gift certificates etc OR you could do something much more fun and give them some sort of engraved/personalised object

[SomeOtherFuckers]

I'm really sensitive to bath products so can never use them even if they're nice, I'm also shit at remembering anything I've ever been given so have probably done this ... not an excuse just some of us are thick and have eczema lol

[Notanothernamechangeaddict]

She definitely doesn't have a skin condition,
She told me she likes to receive smellies,
We don't have a big family/a lot of gift giving
That's why I'm not sure if she's doing it on purpose