So hard to keep my mouth shut...

[Babyblues14]

I work in care, recently got into a conversation about homosexuality, (I didnt bring it up, I know not to). They stated that if their own child was gay they would disown them. I was biting my tongue so hard not to say anything, managed to keep my opinions to myself. Would of got more annoyed otherwise.
When was the last time you had to hold your tongue, and why?

Just now, with my mum because she feels sorry for 'poor Teresa May'. Let's just say we have majorly different political opinions and I am of the liberal left she hates

I think the problem is if it were someone you could properly have a reasoned even spirited discussion with it would be better. But you know it would probably lead to an argument or hostility so unfortunately you just have to bite your tongue.

Exactly, I'm not about to risk my job over my opinions, no matter how strongly I believe in something

I often have to bite my tongue. Sometimes it doesn't work and I just have to say something. Luckily, I have a DP who can sense my explosions and steers conversations in different directions.

Who were you in conversation with? If it was a co worker Itcould have a massively damaging effect on how they do their job in which case they need reporting g to management.

It was a client

Does it effect the work you are doing? If yes, say something. If no, let it go.

My mother says my 9mo son is not "allowed" to be a vegetarian because he will like sausages and will be deficient in protein

Like half of India is protein deficient or something

at work yes bite your tongue unless they ask your opinion.

It's a shame you don't feel able to refute what they're saying. If it was a racial minority, would you also stay silent?

Every time I see my bigoted , sexist , judgmental and opinionated in laws !!!!

She's allowed her own opinions on how she thinks that she would treat her adult child, just keep that in the forefront of your mind.

I've had to bite my tongue over Brexit and Racism.

The origins of Terrorists and "they should be deported" stance.

I did care work, you've got to be none judgemental and accepting of different views from your Service Users, unless they are really offensive, in which case you ask not to work with them.

You know what topic to avoid in the future.

""It's a shame you don't feel able to refute what they're saying. If it was a racial minority, would you also stay silent?""

It unusual to manage to give birth and keep a baby that is a racial minority if you are a raging racist.

It depends on the circumstances but you've got to make allowances for people whose world becomes very insular and small, or have conditions/medication that changes them, or it's their opinion.

You just ask that they don't repeat it in front of you.

This morning. My dad rang to say thanks for his card and asked if I was having 'celebrations and parties' as it was Father's Day. Not really my partner got a card and breakfast from his children and I was going to the cemetery with mine to put flowers on their dad's grave. Some people just don't engage their brain before speaking. to everyone struggling today.

There's a great saying iv learnt on mn. And now I say it to dh when he annoys me,
"You can't row with stupid" ain't that the truth. As iv got older iv lost my spirit a bit I think. Unless it's extremely offensive I just can't be bothered. As someone said up thread if the person your disagreeing with puts across a sensible argument I'll give it a go, as they will probably listen to your opinion but if it's just some thicko spouting of a won't waste my time on them.