To want DH to do his hobby less?

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He spends vast amount of time on it. Three hours this morning and this happens at least twice a weekend. He was off for a week recently and spent three of those days on it.

I have a non-sleeping, EBF, eight month old. I'm exhausted, the house is a tip as I try to sleep when he naps during the day, there is a list of DIY jobs as long as my arm and I've had enough.

The hobby? Cooking obscure and elaborate meals, when I'm in the next room; exhausted, dehydrated and starving while waiting for food that takes forever and unable to get in the kitchen to make some bloody toast.

YANBU
I bet he dresses it up as looking after you too! Sit him down and tell him that the best help he could give you now is sorting out the house. Explain that eating a little and often suits you better when bf so you need access to the kitchen at all times.

YANBU. Would it kill him to throw a chicken in the oven, chop up some salad veg, then spend some of the remaining 2h 45m tidying up the house a bit?

YANBU. one day whilst he is making his latest creation order a pizza. Bet it'll come and you'll eat it before his creation is ready. It might highlight to him that hes spending too much time on it and you're just hungry and want some food of any sort doesn't need to be michelin starred!

He does actually Chaz, thinks it's meals for the family. All of the rest of the housework, laundry, DIY and planning stuff falls to me. But that's ok because he cooked dinner...

Yanbu
Tell him you want a frozen pizza, chicken nuggets and potato waffles

So it's also a work avoidance tactic. Tell him that cooking a meal counts as one job not 4, so what else on the to do list is he going to get done.

Did you post a little while ago? This sounds familiar and unacceptable. You need to work in a partnership he sounds v selfish

Do an online Tesco's order of things you can cook quickly, or microwave and live off those until things become easier with D.C. Get a cleaner and outsource the ironing. Your DH will soon realize where all the money is going and start doing things around the house himself.

I actually live of snacky rubbish already- not actually a fan of a lot of what he cooks. I want proper food- I'd do it myself if he'd let me.

Tried talking about this and he gets all hurt and suddenly I'm the bad guy for being mean. I'm exhausted!! Never thought I'd seriously consider leaving the father of my child because he cooks too much.

Nice to see that I'm definitely not being unreasonable here.

It could be worse - I thought you were going to say he disappears off to football or golf. At least you can go in and spend time and chat with him and have dinner!

For three hours? Would rather he did something useful

He can cook for three hours with a sling on!