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ChameFangeNail · 17/06/2017 17:17

My mum died years ago so it's just my dad and brother. Both dad and bro are fit and well. I have three DCs.

Occasionally I need them to help me out, like when I'd had surgery and DH had to go back to work and when DH was away on business and one of the DCs were ill.

The annoying thing is that they both seem completely oblivious about what life's with kids is like. The last time my dad came over, he delayed and delayed leaving his place (an hour and a half's drive away) - he had to have dinner, then had to wait for someone to drop something off, etc. Eventually he turned up at midnight! Yeah thanks dad, big help when I have a six month old who still wakes in the night and a three year old who is bananas.

My brother is due to come over today 'this afternoon' to help me with a DIY thing while DH is away.

Admittedly 'this afternoon' is a bit vague but I would take that he'd be here between 1 and 3, which I could live with.

It's gone five and he's still not here but is texting about having a BBQ at mine this eve. Thing is I need to feed the DCs now and I just know he's going to turn up right in the middle of bath/bedtime fuckery.

Even if I try and pin them doe bro a specific time they're always late and just run on their own agenda. With no thought to what's involved with having three DCs to deal with solo.

They're the only help I have to call upon so I don't feel like I can say anything. But it really annoys me that they just don't consider how turning up at midnight or in the middle of dinner time just makes my life more difficult. It's like they're on another planet.

WIBU to get pissed off this time?

OP posts:
bilbodog · 17/06/2017 17:40

Is there any point sitting down with them and explaining that if they do want to help they really do need to turn up at the agreed time and explain about the childrens routines and how meal times etc need to be at specific times - if they cant come at the time you need them to then there is no point them coming? I know it sounds harsh but some men need it explaining clearly - and they probably have no idea at all.

Buildmeupbuttercup89 · 17/06/2017 17:59

Tell them to arrive by a certain time. 10mins after that, you won't answer the door

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