DH's days off

[startwig1982]

I currently teach 3 days a week and we are fortunate enough to be paying off our mortgage next year so DH is also going down to three days, which is fab as he suffers from depression and struggles with school life sometimes.

He's managed to get three whole days a week of teaching(which is quite unusual with time tabling issues). He is moaning because one of his two days off a week will be spent with dd, who's at nursery 4 days a week and one with me once a fortnight. He was under the impression that he was going to have 2 days off a week by himself and now he's upset.

Aibu to think he's being a tad ungrateful?

I can relate Startwig. Depression is awful for all involved.

Headspace is important though so maybe there is a compromise? Even if just for a few weeks. Perhaps he just wants to fall apart a bit privately. Not suggesting encouraging unwellness, but maybe just stopping and having a few 'sick days' is what he needs? Then to pick up life again.

This has helped in my experience. The odd bed or sofa day here and there as needed can stave off the big downturns. But might not be like that for everyone.

This may be a good thing in the long run, if he spends the day with his daughter he will be busy. Maybe let him rant but don't change anything, let things just happen. Sometimes people like to have a grumble.

Not many parents are fortunate enough to get an entire day to themselves each week with no childcare to do. That's massively fortunate. What did he think was going to happen to DD while he was off - that you would look after her (while doing the housework)?